**'Desy' young women have issues. Really.
The more one throws themself at a guy the more emotional
baggage she'll have.
Reason 1. The guy has no respect for you
Reason 2. He has nothing left to be interested in when the
girl's doing all the hard work.
Hence the emotional bitterness/hatred
towards species of men in general. I've always maintained that
men treat those women bad who let themselves be treated bad.
I know of no
guy at least around me who gets turned of by an academically competitive girl. But I do know of guys who do get turned off
by show off girls when those girls don't really have anything to show
to start with.
Bottom line, women with ex-relationship baggage are whiners
and not learners of their own mistakes.**
I think everyone has baggage to some extent, and it's just a matter of how they have dealt with it. Okay, this may be a dumb question but is it considered "baggage" if someone has lernt from their mistake? I can honestly say that i used to be (probably still am) guilty of most of the things mentioned here. But i'm learning from my mistake(s), to never ever put myself into that sort of situation ever again....
Code Red i am refering to desans in general. I normally avoid this rare species of humanity. Gories are much easier to deal with on a social level. Due to family reasons I have to deal with the paki community in geneva and stuff. I just wanted to know if the the geneva desan community is warped or rather its a nature occurence in desi females. I also include indians in the desan definition.
Ok emotional baggage is the inability to come to terms with what happened and move on. The said females get stuck in a paranoid cycle where they think all guys are out to get them. Worse even they think there is something wrong with them and develop a whole set of mental issues.
The most common I have come across is the desire to dominant a situation complelety and secondly the inability to open up. Desi girls in general are reserved but these girls are warped. They do not trust you at all and use their last relationship as a basis for all you can do wrong.
They do not treat the ex and the present guy different. In their eyes they aim for revenge sub-conciously and you get your ass whipped.
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Ok emotional baggage is the inability to come to terms with what happened and move on. The said females get stuck in a paranoid cycle where they think all guys are out to get them. Worse even they think there is something wrong with them and develop a whole set of mental issues.
The most common I have come across is the desire to dominant a situation complelety and secondly the inability to open up. Desi girls in general are reserved but these girls are warped. They do not trust you at all and use their last relationship as a basis for all you can do wrong.
They do not treat the ex and the present guy different. In their eyes they aim for revenge sub-conciously and you get your ass whipped.
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Although you want male only responses, I figure it's o.k. to give mine since a lot of other girls have commented too. :p
A lot of girls are able to learn from whatever happened in their past (their "emotional baggage"), grow from it and are able to move on after coming to terms with whatever happened, etc. It may take a year to move on or it may take a few months. Each person is different.
I don't know what type of girls you have in Geneva. I only have one female friend (a white girl) who is obsessed with her past. Although being in another relationship with an amazing guy who treats her with so much respect and accepts her as she is, she is still going on about her ex and cannot let go of it, eventhough he has definitely moved on. For her, it has been 4 years. Imagine what it's like for me and our circle of friends to listen to the same complaints and obsessive behaviour for her ex for the past few years.
If any girl wants to learn from her past and move on, then she can and will. Needless to say, this isn't just a "desan" thing. There's no point in wasting time on people who are stuck in the past and are unable to move on.
In their eyes they aim for revenge sub-conciously and you get your ass whipped.
Better to get it whipped by a female you are spending the rest of your life with and who is bearing your chirldren than not getting anything whipped at all (i.e. not having a woman in your life).
Besides, not all females believe in kicking their man's arse on a daily basis. If you feel the frequency of the whipping is too high, then try another woman. Its what you guys do anyway...go from one woman to another to another to another....
Mehnaz feel free, I do not remember the last time someone actually listened to what i had to say :p
Geneva's desan community is rather unique i would gather, but is surprising to see so many warped individuals in such a small gathering. I have a friend no actually two who just can not get over the men in their life. Also gories. I am not stating that a sob story is the sole right of a desan. It is not.
However very few desans i have met have been able to over come their emotional baggage. I was just doing a quick opinion gathering poll of the men on gupshup on whether this was just unique to Geneva or was it a common occurence.
I just shocked on why it caused such a stir.
PA it is simply a ROE or ROI situation. How hot is she? How great are teh chances you can lay her and you calculate the required BS you have to listen to.
PCG with all your ranting you sure you do not know the reason why you do not have a guy in your life?
PA it is simply a ROE or ROI situation. How hot is she? How great are teh chances you can lay her and you calculate the required BS you have to listen to.
Khochra.
PCG with all your ranting you sure you do not know the reason why you do not have a guy in your life?
okay, even if she's got a lot of excess baggage, which I refuse to generalize to all female desis, what is the big deal with listening?
All a girl like that really expects is for someone to listen to her and to help her get over it. Let her vent and then take her out for a run on the beach and help her get a hobby.
In fact, instead of finding a solution to the problem, guys like you come onto the forums to whine. Now who's da baby?
PCG, maybe guys like to come here and whine because they canot do it in front of their significant others, because it will open up another can of worms. Why cannot women be just happy? See, I am all smiles :)
Since when does a simple question suddenly become a thread for character assassination? It was a very simple question. Not a subject for females to have a fit over.
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PCG, maybe guys like to come here and whine because they canot do it in front of their significant others, because it will open up another can of worms. Why cannot women be just happy? See, I am all smiles :)
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Why dont we send Sir Galahads warped female the link to this thread.
Seriously Sir Galahad , everybody has some sort of emotional baggage.Even yourself!
How can u folks judge a person’s character by a simple question. If you dont have an answer to a question please refrain from personal attacks, it just shows an unhealthy spirit.
Either u guys have desans with emotional baggage, or u ppl are afraid of admitting it.
U desans have to take everything personally, Xcept hiccup
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