the shoulds and shouldn'ts of a wedding

[Reha]

@mistral

It’s always fun to drop in to this part of the forum and see the pictures and discussions. There are so many lovely traditions, clothes, FOOD, music, etc. that go into making this big day so very wonderful and memorable.

But I just wanted to add this for what it’s worth…I see a lot of posts here regarding “should I do this/wear this/write this on the invitation/wear the dupatta this way or that/etc.” And you know something? You shouldn’t have to do anything.

Do what you love, what makes you comfortable, what makes you happy. You need to balance this of course with the needs and wants of your spouse to be and your family. Compromises will have to be made every once in a while.

But the ground will not open up and swallow you if the lipstick shade you ended up with isn’t the exact shade of coral you were looking for (besides - the bride always looks beautiful on her wedding day…it’s practically a law). You will not be struck by lightening if you wear blue to your mehndi instead of yellow. The marriage will not somehow be invalidated if you decide to go crazy and have fried chicken as your main course as opposed to biryani.

Like I said, do what YOU have been dreaming about. There will always be naysayers…people who will insist on telling you that the bride should do THIS during the mangni, or wear THAT during the valima, or that the invitations should look like THIS. Take it with a grain of salt.

The wedding belongs to you and your spouse.

That’s how I went about it. I didn’t have it in my schedule or my budget to do so many of the rasms and details that so many people do for their weddings (and I’m not criticizing those people). But it was still one of the happiest times in my life. Were there people who still insisted on telling me exactly what I was doing wrong? Of course. But I didn’t let it get to me.

So for all you lovely brides-to be…have fun, relax, and don’t sweat the small stuff. You’re going to be beautiful and you’re going to have a beautiful day…Inshallah.

Great post.

Do what you want, people will gossip even if you do everything in your power to accomodate them. They WILL gossip so stop caring.

If you’re happy, your face will glow with or without make up. It just happens…brides GLOW…something about your wedding makes you beautiful!