This just doesnt seem to be getting any easier. My dad passed a month ago as many of you know. He wanted to be cremated and have his remains buried at sea, preferably where his brother was shot down in the south pacific during WWII. Anyway, his remains are “ready” now and my brother picked them up. The thing is, now his remains need to go to the Navy base in Hawaii so that the next ship that goes to the south pacific can take him there. They said to mail my father to them. (!!) That just doesnt sit right with me, putting my father in the mail. Sad and morbid, yeah? Anyway, my mom was wanting to give my brother some money which I guess he could use…but I suggested that he works so hard that maybe he’d like a vacation…send him to hawaii with his wife and my Dad. That way, he;d be taking my dad on his last journey. She kind of laughed at me but definitely saw my point about mailing…I guess I’m a bit strange but well, there it is.
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I'm sorry to hear about your father's passing.
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:(, i think its the right thing to send your bro with the remains.
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Being removed from the situation it's easier to say "mail him there" because that's not "really" your Dad. He's up in heaven.....at least his soul, the part that matters, is.
But I hear ya.
Pitch in with the funds and send him with your brother and his wife.
You will never regret it.
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its neva easy to let go of people who have been part of our lives for so many years i guess.... i pray u will very soon feel da way i feel abt my late dad now. he's now in a place much better than this world.
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Such a hard decision, but I agree, if your brother and his wife can go, perhaps that would be best.
I wish your family comfort and peace during this difficult time.