the guys side come to see the girl,then call back and invite the girl’s side over…
now after the girl’s side visit them should they call them back if the like the guy side too..
also there is a third person between the two parties who is communicating between them…and after the girls side visit them..this third party tells them that larkey waley are very happy and want to take things further..
now the question is..
shud the larki waley call them back or wait for the larkey wala’s call???
i know this is stupid and confusing…but i want some serious,mature replies..
I would wait for the larka wala to initiate contact, but if some time has passed (week maybe) and the girl's side hasn't heard anything, then maybe contact the person in the middle and have them find out what's going on. But if by the second meeting, the girl's parents and the guys parents have formed a bit of a rapport, I guess one of them could call the other to find out what's what. Gosh, there just seems so many chances for miscues and miscommunication during this process. :-/
as per my experience the larki wala waits for a call from larkay wala . even at this stage the guy's family gets first right of refusal. I know it's unfair but thats the way it is :)
or if there is a rishta wali aunty or uncle involved you can ask him/her but they are usually so desperate that they inform the larki walay as soon as they get any feedback from larkay walay.
The only thing I can suggest is ask the middle well what do the larkay walay want to do to things further? Also, tell the middle person the larkay walay can contact you guys so something can be worked out.
Yes usually the guys side has the initial upper hand in deciding whether they want to pursue or not...not very fair but it happens. They'll call you back if they are interested otherwise it means no. people are more subtle and confusing than clear and assertive. in a honest society the answer should be delivered right away so the larki walay can move on. I think most people deep down inside know right after they leave the girls house if its acceptable or not thats why a answer should always be immediate (at least within a week).