the rishta process- demands

[Sady]

Re: the rishta process- demands

Siren,

Im not worried because to be honest Im scared of marriage because of all the horror stories I keep hearing from people & also because Im kinda asexual. Im open to it now because my parents keep telling me to focus on ‘marriage’. But will not marry if I do not find these basic *prerequisites.

*I always pray to God to do for me what is the best for me. So, I am sure remaining single is what is best for me. Your prayers are appreciated

@Siren

I never thought about the smoking thing and it never really came up…the only thing I cared about was height (superficial I know) because I knew my parents would never introduce a guy to me who didn’t meet their criteria. I’m 5’6" (apparently above average in Pakistanis) so I’d wanted someone above 6’ so I could still wear heels when with him and still look good
There was this one guy who my parents had approved of who was 5’7" and after hearing all about him I’d agreed to let go of my childish demand…but when I met him, there was just no spark. He was very nice and well-spoken, but for some reason he just made me feel super uncomfortable by the way he looked at me. I was a little creeped out and I still can’t figure out why. My husband (he’s 6’1"), on the other hand…when I first met him, I felt shy (unusual for me) but still attracted, so I guess it all worked out in the end.

That really strengthened my belief in fate, and so if you’re worried Sady don’t be. The right guy will come along soon, and I’m sure he’ll be everything that you want (inshallah)