The Rights

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Re: The Rights

@psyah

Peace llxxll

No doubt the person who a man is in greatest debt to is his mother, yet the person who is his dependent is his wife. In a business it is good practice to pay off debts quickly and then to concentrate on growth and profits. So accordingly in early marriage it is advisable to allow the mother retain her hold over the husband and try not to snatch him too fast from her.

Slowly if wife helps him make his mother happy that will result in her happiness. If his mother annoys his wife then the man should listen to his wife and comfort her. But never speak out of turn in front of his own mother and he should not be expected to by the wife.

Either old age sets in and the mother no longer treats the wife in a bad way because she has earned her trust … or the elders live no longer … in the normal case other things obviously could happen.

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The role of the wife is critical as she has greater vision to these things and men cannot see some things happening. The philosophy of a good wife is not “Oppress or be oppressed” this is a flawed mindset, because it ignores the other possibility the mindset should be “Be diplomatic and sacrificing” and thus you attain balance.

InshaAllah!

Really like these two points psyah!. As men, it gets over-whelming to try balancing a wife with rights of our mothers. But i do understand that, sometimes
a wife needs to be much more patience and understanding given that wife’s rights are not abused. More like a very good balance you described here psyah!!