Re: The return of the ex....
Alvena,
Your x needs to sort out his feelings. He needs to figure out if he "wants you back" because he misses the chase......he misses the attention you gave him.......he misses his ego boost.......OR is it because he truly values you and loves you.
Also, if he does indeed love you......he'll respect your wishes to remain just friends at the moment.....and he won't try to manipulate you into getting back with him through tears (no matter how genuine they may seem).
The thing is that.......tears/crying don't necessarily prove that he has learned his lesson: RESPECTING YOU. If he's going to prove to you that he has indeed changed.....crying is not a good indication. It would have to be through actions of respect/consideration/support, etc.
And most importantly, how do **YOU **feel about your x? Are you totally and completely over him to the extent that you have absolutely no desire or interest to start a romantic relationship with him? If that's the case, then let him know because being honest with him is better than him continuing to have hope.
On the other hand.....if you STILL want to consider the possibility of having him as a future partner.................then let him know that for right now you want to take things slow and start of as as friends and that you'll see how it goes. And just observe the way that he treats you. This will give you an idea of what path you want to choose in life. Don't enter any romantic relationships.....don't make any commitments.......just see how he behaves........and if HE is truly interested.......then HE should bring his parents to your home and propose formally WITHOUT you having to prompt him.
Also........be careful around him considering his track record of disrespecting you and walking out on you.