Make the gori live your entire family even when she tells you she prefers to live away from them. I will see how it works out. It’s not about superiority complex or narrow-mindedness. It’s about forcing sh*t on people. Someone who is in love will make that compromise to make their spouse happy. Someone going into an arranged marriage will make that compromise to make the parents happy. People do stuff they are not willing to do all the time! They have to weigh their options. You force ANYONE to live with your parents, they will get upset. The nature of mian-bivi relationship is that women can’t say much about what she unwillingly agreed to do when she signed the contract so end up complaining about everything else under the sun. . Now, obviously there are women who have a million expectations; they want no responsibilities, they want to treated like a princess, not work outside or at home then sure…you can say they are wrong. An independent working woman who needs no one will not settle for such an arrangement without a fight. lol I am just telling you how things are, bro. It’s not about me… If there is a lack of balance, or there is hypocrisy, or double standards, I will point it out. I don’t care what it is. Stop assuming I have a certain mentality. I don’t.
There is no forcing. Your statement was that she did way more than a man will do just because she married him. That is narrow minded.
And let me get this straight. Over a 1000 years of desi culture at each point a woman didn’t know she was gonna live with her in laws - that she unwillingly agreed to it?
Yeah, she did! Can you imagine leaving your parents?! Why is that hard for you and easy for her? That’s an assumption desi men have that just because it’s a cultural practice that it must be easy for her. It’s not, bro.
