The Only Brother of Many Sisters

[Ashy2010]

Re: The Only Brother of Many Sisters

@Xtron

Ashy no offence but you have no right to judge his mother like this. And this is where the problem starts when assumptions are made based on thin line. Secondly, the guy’s sisters are probably excited and happy that is why they want to come and see. Whats wrong with that? And lastly, they probably have reasons for having un-married sisters. Again, no right of you to even judge them based upon having so many unmarried sisters of his. Sab ke apnai issues hain. Focus on yourself as to what your ideal partner should have…make a list and go accordingly. The minute you some of my fellow men or some women starts to assume as well judge them unfairly, then you become a product of our backward culture.

When did I judge the mother? I said whatever she is doing is the best for her family and if my mother would be in her place, she would be doing the same.

I am again not judging so many unmarried sisters but this factor has definitely affected our decision since the guy does not earn much and his income would be enough for his wife only but we understand that he has responsibilities for his unmarried sisters (since the father is retired) so rather than me accepting the proposal NOW and making fuss after the marriage, I think its better NOT to pursue the proposal and making their lives and my life easier in the future. I don’t think I can be upto her expectations. Its not that I am judging them. Its that I am judging myself.

Besides, they are more interested in a working girl. Although I am working, but I don’t think there should be any condition before the marriage that the girl WILL continue work after marriage.

Regarding coming to see the girl, come on. We are not not exhibition display items. I have no problem with one sister coming. But 3-4-5 sisters coming and looking at me like an object is kinda insulting. The sisters themselves are going through this rishta process and are still insensitive about this issue which is pathetic. You cannot imagine the pain and insult we girls have to go through this cattle market practice in an arranged setting. The guys families can at least make this process a bit easier for the girls. Do we have to pay this price if we plan to marry in an arranged setting?