Do you agree?Please explain!
yep. the ones we love have high expectations of us and when we dont meet these expectations,they are hurt.
if a stranger was to insult you,itd hurt, but if a loved one was to insult you,itd hurt hell of a lot more! reason being that you have a connection,a bond with the loved one,so what they say/do to you means more and is important to you cos you care about their opinion etc more than you would a stranger.
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Hurting more means loving more??! its complete bull****.
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Why would you purposely wanna hurt the ones you love?
Unless you are looking for a reason to buy flowers.
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dont know. I cant hurt a person I love ... dont think so. I can be angry at him/her, but will still keep my limits to not get very rude.
^ to all of you - so you have never been hurt by someone you love?
most of the time loved ones hurt you completely unintentionally, the point is that if someone you love says something mean to you, in anger, in an argument(who doesnt say mean things in an argument?),as teasing, as a joke, its going to hurt more than it would if a stranger was to say it.
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no I dont think so.
Love knows no pain. But to gain love or the one you love, there's a lot of pain and struggle involved.
Do you agree?Please explain!
*Hi Waterfall,
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I agree. But I ALSO believe that we can hurt people that we don't love....to get revenge, for example.
As far as the topic of the thread is concerned....here are my two cents. If a stranger says something mean to us.....we get offended for 5 minutes...half an hour...maybe a whole day....BUT....we get over it. We're not consumed by the offensive remark because we don't love the stranger.....so their comments don't hurt us as much. BUT.....when someone we love.....such as a family member or close friends offends us........IT HURTS A LOT! Because these people are closer to your heart....and you expect better from them....and since you hold them in higher regard their opinions tend to matter more. And when we get hurt by a loved one.....the hurt can be strong enough.....to prompt us to hurt that loved one just as much as they hurt us.
Also, we are more comfortable with our loved ones and can get away with a lot when we are around them. For example....you can get away with talking back to your mom....but you won't try that with an aunti. You don't think twice about getting snippy with your sister....but you'll be more controlled around a co-worker. Our loved ones allow us to be let down our guard and be more comfortable and free........and this is another reason why we can end up hurting our loved ones the most. That "freeness" and "comfort level" can lead us to lose control sometimes.
Also, I think that we don't tend to waste our emotional enery so much on strangers. We do that more with people we love or have an emotional attachment to. In my experience.....if someone i don't particularly care for offends me...........I feel angry BUT not hurt. However....if someone I deeply care about offends me.........THAT hurts.
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well how about the one who thinks that he/she gets love the most, have load many expectations from their admirers, but when their admirers fails they are hurt.
Same here.I don’t seem to agree with the phrase.I just can’t hurt anyone i love 
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Its just a stoopid saying...trying to justify hurting your "loved" ones
...It like saying...I hate you because I love you
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I dont really agree. Could be a thought from idealistic POV but doesnt apply much in reality. We may hurt the passer by begger by our undue behaviour so...?