Re: The ones that are divorced…any regrets?
Granted desis are narrow minded and bigoted when it comes to a divorcee. Downright cruel some of them. But a divorcee is a human being that requires love and care too and the company of others. You don’t go to any desi functions at all? you’re letting those narrow minded bigots win out then. If a divorcee survived pain and abuse, a state of hell and came out of it in one piece, she’s a survivor and shouldn’t go back to the same hell and loneliness she experienced during the marriage by isolating herself. i think that resentment and bitterness shouldn’t take over. Staying positive and keeping that bond with Allah strong because he did protect during the painful marriage and gave the tools to be survivor. There are open minded, non judgmental people too, rare and far too few but they do exist.
I wonder if Starting the sentence with bhai jaan to any married woman’s husband would keep the married women from getting all paranoid? Although that won’t work either because a lot of the totally slimy ones would ignore any “bhai” associations and bully a vulnerable woman into getting his way.
how did you connect with other divorcees to create the support group? Are they of only desi women or all ethnic groups?