Re: The Old Guard - Keeping traditions more alive in the West than Back Home
Duniya jisse kehteye hain jado ka khilona hai
Jo mil jaye woh mittie, Jo kho jaye woh sona
The ones back home want to evolve and yet the ones that are in a foreign environment they tend to value what they left back home.
As for arrange marriage Vs Love marriage debate I guess you can’t really choose one over the other. I would say it depends on the “aptitude” and the priorities of the two involved in a love marriage and the parents/relative/family arranging the marriage/introduction.
Arrange marriages fail at times for they are arranged for the wrong reason or the priority list being upside down. Times have changed now and so the priority list has been turned up side down. Since majority of Pakistanis come from rural society the priority has been as in the case of rural societies of the group/family over the individual. For instance the family status and family back ground is/was given more precedence over the compatibility of the two individuals involved. So in the past a good background check with good family status was enough. Now perhaps it’s the individual compatibility that needs to be given preference. Perhaps it was even in the past and even now for there are so many arranged marriages that are successful but we often fail to see the positive side of things that we don’t like and rather “romanticize” with the negative ones, just like love marriages are generally associated with disrespect, disgrace and rebellion.