Hey fellow guppies 
It’s been a while since I posted - I recently got married and had been busy with pre-wedding and post-wedding engagements.
So here’s the shmeel. I have always had mixed feelings for my MIL. She’s quite nice, but more of a “meethi-churri” (sweet-knife). She’s over emotional (which is fine because she’s overly sensitive) and she is absolutely head over heels in love with her son (my husband), which is also completely understandable. But the possessive-ness that she has over her son is driving me nuts! During the first few months she was great in terms of giving me space and privacy, which I appreciated, but she’s always had a way with words, she did then and she does now. She says some hurtful comments in a sly way - and I hate when people talk like that, because I think I’m pretty upfront if I have a problem with something. I dislike playing games and I hate drama (just like all other girls).
Anyway, I’d love to hear some advice on how to deal with MILs in general. Here’s the issue with mine:
-She’s overly possessive. She wants to cook for him and she wants to serve his food. Which is fine once in a while, I don’t mind - because I realize her position in his life. BUT, I’m his wife and I should be able to cook for him and serve him dinner as well. Both the hubster and I work, so in the evening both her and I have this crazy race to pack his lunch for the next day. Btw, on my part this race is completely unintentional. I simply want to be able to care for my husband. Also, whenever I cook him dinner, she’ll ask what I made, which is fine, but after hearing the response, she’ll be like, “oh! woh to kuch nahin hota. Koi taaqat nahi hai. Main banaati hoon”. That makes me go nuts! Btw, this dinner is veryyyy rare. I’ve only been able to do it 3 times since I’ve been married.
-She always wants to know where we are going. And somehow always tries to stop us. For example, the other day on a Saturday night, both the hubby and I wanted to go out for kashmiri chai. When we were leaving, she pretty much hounded us and said, don’t worry, we have kashmiri chai. But God bless my husband, he just said, “no, we’re going anyway”. The other day we were going out to eat, which we only do once every 2 weeks or so. And she asked us, we told her we’re going to Boston Pizza, and she had the moosttttt sour look on her face and didn’t say anything.
-Now she’s started a new game, crying. She cries to get her way. She complains about me to my husband and bursts out crying. Saying, I don’t spend enough time with her. This is baffling to me! I come home every day at 8 pm, eat, do work and sleep because I wake up at 5. Yet, between these 3 hours that I have every night at home, I handle my work, husband, parents, siblings and still manage to squeeze in at least half an hour of time with her (which is always spent watching dramas with her). Yet, shes still complaining :s We take her out for dessert and dinner on weekends whenever we can - even though my husband and I barely get time together alone anyway (given our busy schedules). And now she’s started using tears :S When I heard of this, I was absolutely horrified! My hubby just said, “oh she was sad and I guess she couldn’t hold it in, but she wasn’t complaining about you”
There’s my venting. Sorry for the long post. I haven’t been able to share this with anyone, mainly because I don’t want to disturb my parents and sister with this and I obviously can’t share a 100% with my husband because it’s his mother afterall. And I don’t want to be one of those complaining wives 
