Re: The Muslims upstairs
Well I think the whole point of hijab is to not attrct that kind of attention, to not display your beauty, not that non-hijabis deserve to be harrassed.
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Well, a scarf on the head makes no sense if u got tight clothes, jewelry, makeup etc.. I think if they're doing the best they can, downplaying their beauty to best of their ability, then they're not responsible for a pervy guys (not necessarily u or ur buddies) stares or thoughts.
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Sarahsplendor Move Out Of That Apartment! Any Family With Kids Have No Control On Kids, Cause Kids Forget Right After They Are Told Something. Especially Third World Country's Kids I Mean Most Of Them Not All.
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Why don’t you call them…i think after a few calls nuisance will decrease a lot,thoug it will not disappear totally
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I think if i was their i would hit the fire extinguisher over his head.
And i do not understand these big beard Mullahs who act so rash towards the kids,Remember that Rasoolullah saw would shorten his prayer if he heard a child crying.He used to carry his grandson DURING the prayer,BUt some of these people will act as if they are the mosy pious people whos Salat is disturbed by little noise.
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Yeah but in most mosques (at least when i go) the men stick the women in the back in some cramped area, stick their kids with them and the women aren't even praying or reading Quran or anything. Their kids are running around crazy... its annoying. And at least the prophet SAW would do something, these ladies just sit there and talk to other women...
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The Japanese lived in paper houses and still do Sarah...
When asked how they tolerate the neighbours' kids and shoutings and even intimate noises, they replied that they applied the rule of the '7th Curtain'...
And what is the 7th Curtain?
It is mentally ignoring the sounds coming from behind the paper walls of another man's house...
But if you feel bad, take them a small dish of Biryani and talk to the lady of the house...
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lajo, even the most pampered of japanese kids cant compare with your avg desi unruly brat.
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lajawab - that’s all well and good for the Japanese, but some of us need quiet to study.
(btw- long time no see in the same thread - how ya doing??? hope you’re well)
What I think she was trying to say here is following the principles of Islam should come before worrying about following the outer adornments, which makes sense to me.
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Minah:
I am doing...:D How's it going with you?
Well, a hint of advice...If you want to study, do it outside the walls of your house...Park, library, a shaded sidewalk...
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Laja - well, thanks :) Glad to hear it....
Some of us work and go to school (yes, I take classes still) and night time is the only time we have to study usually after 9, realistically after 11...... those you mention are not an option. No one should be allowed to make a home intolerable.
I agree maybe taking a small (sugarless - sugar wires kids) bread and approaching the mother and explaining your problem nicely. She may not realize what the problems she is creating by allowing them to run around like that.
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Most people who complain about kids playing and the noise etc are just grouches with a chip on their shoulders. Just make friends with the kids and they'll repay you a 1000 times, so will their parents. May be they can play downstairs and you go study upstairs....the mom will thankfully make chai for you. Stop whining.
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Dual - I have kids (one of which raise his share of h3ll) and tolerate a lot of noise. But there are some people in this world that think as long as the noise isn't around them (hence telling the kids to play outside or in other places) it is acceptable because they don't hear. They would rather have them running around being nuts than actually teaching them how to behave. I did that once with some wild kids that lived next door to me (gave them games, balls, kept them occupied rather than just witching about them pulling up the plants in my garden and trampling flowers) and then wondered why my things were disappearing until I figured out they stole whatever is not nailed down. Point is sometimes the direct route is the best and quite frankly, unruly kids are the PARENT's responsibility, no one elses.
Now that I am an old lady and my kids are starting to go off on their own, I don't want to raise other people's kids and I don't even want to hear them. Yeah, I'm a grouch and an old lady who earned her peace and quiet.
I wonder if you would have said the same to a man compaining. Usually all this advice about watching other's kids and being tolerant about other people's kids is always directed toward women.
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Minah:
Didn't mean because of the kids or anything...It's just that studying outside of home one retains more in sublime climes so to speak...
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Minah_pa: so because some kids stole stuff, now all kids are non grata? you're bedarndat! what's with the man woman stuff? Since you asked I will tell you my opinion - there are more women whiners and male grouches...happy?
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lol - sure, always happy.
But all kids are non-grata NOW cause I am soooooo old and frail :D.
But then, kids were non-grata when they were wild, ones that behave were always welcome. My house, my rules, if that makes me a whiner or a grouch or whatever that word is that you called me (can’t be anyworse than anything I’ve heard before 
), that’s fine with me.
As far as the women vs men stuff. People always give advice like that to women as though we should love and appreciate and help all kids and other mothers, even if the other mother should be doing her job since she brought the lil rugrats into the world.
If a man had complained he would have been comiserated with or told of other venues to go to to study. HENCE what I said.
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And whats' wrong with kids playing, running and screaming INSIDE their OWN HOME? If you had any common sense you would have rented on the top floor. APartment living has it's positives and negatives. Learn to live with it.
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Kick in the door and go nuts on them. It will quiet them up real quick