The moving out of the in-laws house conversation

[inspiron]

Re: The moving out of the in-laws house conversation

@redvelvet

Your husband can soften the blow a bit by saying that you and him will visit on the weekends or something like that…or by getting a home that’s not too far off from where in-laws live. It depends mostly on your husband…he’s the one who’ll be talking to them.

As for mil …her kids will always be her kids no matter how old they get. Her daughters are married and so she prolly feels like pampering them whenever they come to visit…as many parents tend to do. My sister’s married and when she visits…a special meal will be made or just a bit of pampering as they don’t see her often. So how your mil’s equation is with her daughters is not that relevant to the issue at hand nor does it impact your marriage. Whatever she does with her daughters…is not something to dwell over unless it’s there’s a huge disparity …particularly an unjust one…between how she treats u n them. Focus more on how your husband should approach this discussion. He needs to think about how to cushion the impact and he needs to anticipate what arguments his mom will make and plan counter-responses. And if it’s easier for him to talk to his dad…then maybe he should first talk to dad alone…and if dad does okay…his help can be enlisted to break the news to mom.

I understand her kids are always her kids but her daughters visit almost every day and spend the night often, and the egg thing is just one example they dont they their own laundry or their kids laundry and take food from here and dont cook- or know how to cook etc its not just a little pampering and she doesn’t treat me differently but I told her that I will make my own breakfast and clean my own room and do my own laundry when I first got married she INSISTED on cleaning my room for me which to me was kind but in invasion of privacy and made me feel like a kid again, before moving in with the in laws I lived in my own house on my own.