The most blessed Nikah is the one in which least expenses are incurred, and is simple

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“The most blessed Nikah is the one in which least expenses are incurred, and is simple.”

Allah Ta’ala has put blessing in simplicity, but nowadays the weddings have to be in halls and thousands of people are invited for meals. Food is served in buffet style, free intermingling of sexes, various types of food is served, music is blaring loudly, photos are taken with the bride being displayed on the stage, if possible then the whole wedding is also put on video etc.

About buffet style eating, Allah Ta’ala states in the Holy Qur’aan,

﴾وَيَأْكُلُونَ كَمَا تَأْكُلُ الْأَنْعَامُ﴿

“They eat like animals,”

This verse was for the Kuffaar. What a pity that the Muslims are now imitating the Kuffaar. Whereas the true benefactor of the Ummat announced fourteen hundred years back, that do not eat and drink while standing,

Rasulullah (salellaho alaihe wasallam) mentioned that the Nikaah with the most Barakah is one which is,

أَيْسَرُهُ مَؤُنَةً

“With the least expense.”

If Walimah has to take place then it too should be done very simply. It is not Wajib to make Walimah inviting hundreds of people and keeping it in a hall. Invite a few needy people and feed them, the Sunnat of Walimah will be fulfilled. Feed the Walimah guests in your house; you will not need to hire a hall for which you have to pay hundreds. Rather save all this money and give it to your daughter or son who is marrying or keep it for yourselves and use it in a good cause. Remember, even if thousands of people will attend the wedding or Walimah, they will never be satisfied, they will have unending complains, e.g. the food was too salty or too oily or the meat was not cooked properly or it was too spicy, or the food was tasteless or burnt etc. Therefore, leave all this wastage and work with simplicity. A Sahabi (radhiallaho anho) got married in Madina and he did not even invite Rasulullah (salellaho alaihe wasallam) to the Walimah feast. When Rasulullah (salellaho alaihe wasallam) found out about this Sahabi’s marriage, he did not show displeasure to his Sahabi that why did he not invite him. Nowadays, the family fights if they are not invited and say, “We will not invite them to our functions and will not attend any other gathering of theirs in the future” All this is ignorance. Therefore, a Nikah in which least expenses are incurred, know it to be the most blessed.

from the book here: The Way to a Happy Married Life | English Books | Khanqah Imdadia Ashrafia - Karachi (Pakistan)

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I like the idea of a simple wedding. Although if you have a lot of people to share the occasion with, I don't think there's any harm holding it in a hall that can accommodate everyone you are inviting. Of course I also believe that one should do these things within his means (so that means without having to take loans to hold it). I don't think any wedding really needs anymore expense than a hall (incl. tables, chairs, dishes etc.) and the food. From my experience, after all is said and done, I won't remember what anyone was wearing by the time I get home. I won't remember the lighting they had there or any of the decorations. But I'll remember if I enjoyed the food for years to come. It looks like I've gone off topic. Sorry.

May Allah forgive me if I've said anything wrong and guide me. Ameen.

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Re: The most blessed Nikah is the one in which least expenses are incurred, and is si

thanks for sharing

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Re: The most blessed Nikah is the one in which least expenses are incurred, and is si

very nice brother.there should only be a nikah and walima.
dholki,mehendiz should be banned.

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Re: The most blessed Nikah is the one in which least expenses are incurred, and is si

^^
Although dholki and mehendi is from Hindu culture, i think. but anyways,

Rabi', the daughter of Mu'awwiz ibn 'Afra, said that the Holy Prophet (saw) came to me on the day of my wedding and seated himself on my bed just like other kith and kin. So our Ansar sisters began to play on 'Daf' (musical instrument) and sing in praises of martyrs of Badr.
When one of the girls began singing in praise of the Holy Prophet (saw) he stopped her and asked to carry on singing as before.

A'isha Siddiqa narrates that a woman was married to an Ansari man. The Prophet (saw) intervening inquired of the women gathered there whether any of them knew anything of any sport or music.

A'isha Siddiqa narrates that the Holy Prophet (saw) said:

"Let this 'Nikah' ceremony be pronounced loudly on 'Daf' and be held within the premises of mosque."

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Re: The most blessed Nikah is the one in which least expenses are incurred, and is si

Let's make sure we do not throw baby out with the bath water.

wedding customs change from region to region, and we cannot have 100% copy of Arab culture to be followed all over the world.

Wedding is deeply personal and family specific. If the couple decides to wed in a certain way, or their family wants to have aloo gosht instead of chicken shawarma, it is perfectly OK.

The bottom lines that wedding should not create financial disaster for the families. That's all.

But the same financial carefulness is necessary for ALL aspects of life and not just Nikkah.