Just ask her
If she complained when You were a kid and you used to get scared of thunder and lightning. Was she not used to leave whatever she was doing and came to you?
Ask her if she complained when u gave he countless sleepless nights you gave her when you were a baby/kid?
Ask her is she complained when she had to cleanup all the mess in the house that u used to do when you were a kid and used to sleep at your own discretion without feeling the responsibility
Ask her if she complained when you used to become more active and playful when you were among your friends?
ASk her if she complained when she had to reduce her social circle just so that she can take care of you?
and finally ask yourself, why people have children like you? any idea?
PS: You have your mother with you. Earn your heaven instead of complaining.
Okay so most of you know by now that I am a spoilt only child that takes care of her elderly mom. I have read many threads on elderly parents but i feel like its a no win situation.
I am scared and frustrated. Just frustrated, I am always trying to fit in my mom and accomodate her needs. I feel that the more that I do that the more of what is asked of me. I guess the most recent thing is that Its reached boiling point and I do not know how to go on anymore.
Okay it first started with thunder. She is petrified with it. She gets really scared to the point that she tries and unplugs everything the house, turns off the tv and at many points runs to next door neighbours houses when it starts to thunder. I have been called at work because she is scared and asked by her to please come home. Its come to the point now that I am scared. I don't know what to do
Then its the light. She needs some sort of light to go to sleep. We sleep in the same room so it makes it difficult as I am the extreme opposite. I cannot sleep with any sort of light. I have tried and sometimes because of it I am the one that has the sleepless nights and hence in a bad mood in the morning when i need to go to work. She doesn't want to try sleeping in diff rooms.
Now its the items on the dressing table. She needs to pack them away each night (don't know why) but its got something to do with she gets scared. I know I am being a ***** but common. What can i do. I am stuck bringing home the bread and butter and it makes me miserable. I have tried my best to do my best in the situation.
When I am home its like we are living as two lifeless souls. But when we go to her family who don't even take any responsiblity for anything, she is all full of life etc. I tell her to find a hobby I enrolled her into classes but no.
I have lost friends, relationships and well my life, trying to build us a home and well like me when she gets angry she says things that even after years have passed her words hurt.
I am by no means perfect. But I try, I am trying to build us a life and well its not working.
I feel hopeless and ask for prayers and well advice, advice as to how you would manage. I feel if I am having issues with lights on lights off matter. How did you guys adjust to your other half who had such issues as the ones that I have described.
I always tell myself to try and tackle it by thinking that if I had a husband who was scared off thunder, lights on, bottles on the dressing table how I would handle it but it doesn't seem to work
any ideas...
why do people have only children...