Re: The more you accomodate the more you have to give…
^ Decent 6 Chora…
I’ve had students who were very ill…and their parents told them to “stick it out” as opposed to dropping everything and coming to pick up the kid.
I’ve seen parents who refuse to pick up the baby every single time it cries because they don’t want to spoil the baby. They want the child to have endurance and not get used to being coddled all the time.
EVEN PARENTS will complain to their peers about how dirty their kids’ rooms are…how kids can be stubborn…or picky eaters …or fussy sleepers.
I’ve seen parents show their kids…a concept…called TOUGH LOVE. Being firm with their kids…and giving them some space…so they can learn independence. I’ve seen parents…push their kids out and away from themselves so that they’ll have the courage to go to school for the first time.
You can’t simplify the role of parenting like that and use it to give the poster a guilt trip. Because that’s ALL that you did in your post. You did little to help her…did little to provide suggestions…and only tried to make her feel guilty. SHE SAID IN HER POST that she knows she’s not perfect.
Even parents (like children) are human beings who lose control of their emotions and are prone to making mistakes and acting ridiculous. She hasn’t asked advice on how to get rid of her mother. She’s asking for suggestions on how to cope and make things easier. EVEN PARENTS find ways to run their homes more smoothly. And that is what Zash is trying to do here. You can tell from the tone in her post that she doesn’t feel great about “venting” or “complaining.” She wants support/ideas…not total nijaat from her mom.
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“Why people have children like you??”** That’s rather harsh. Although I’ve heard DESI MOMS say that sometimes they wish they hadn’t had their kids…or they wish they could leave their kids and go somewhere…LOL.
**SHE NEVER SAID **“Why do I have to have a mom like that?” She only said “Why do people have only kids?”…referring to mainly to number of children. 
And another thing…if you had read her PREVIOUS posts…you’d know that she’s not the complaining rebel that you picture. Rather she has been through A LOT in her life…and has showed much tolerance.