is there some point in their lives that they finally realize they need to see the person of the opposite gender as a human being?
i see them misguiding and misleading these women and yet i can’t do anything about it. they are my friends, they treat me well but when they see other women they go into womanizer mode…every time i see them flirting with a woman i hope that they’ve actually stopped this way of thinking and this is the one woman for them, but it never ends up being the case.
Re: the men that see women as conquests or that mislead them......
^ its how God made them......its the genetic wiring n stuff...
Re: the men that see women as conquests or that mislead them......
^ its how God made them......its the genetic wiring n stuff...
i didn't get a chance to write that they come in both genders.....just in case nomi sees this thread :P but yes the manizers exist too. I just want these guys, my friends to stop what they're up to. going the emotional way didn't work, i mean anybody with a conscience would see that this is wrong, i just need to know the right words to say to them so they would see these women as human
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^its really hard for you to achieve that........ juss saying
This might happen (to some extent) when they are married (assuming they aren't already)...
Re: the men that see women as conquests or that mislead them......
Well yes, you can do something about it. Just try to avoid them. Your actions should give a clear message to them that you won't tolerate their misguiding and misleading other women. You said that they treat you well. *This *is exactly what other women would also be thinking whom they are misleading and misguiding. Who knows they look at you the same way they look at them. A 'potential' time pass.
Well, they usually realize their mistake when its too late for their victim to realize that she has been used for their purpose. Better stay away from them.
Re: the men that see women as conquests or that mislead them......
Well yes, you can do something about it. Just try to avoid them. Your actions should give a clear message to them that you won't tolerate their misguiding and misleading other women. You said that they treat you well. *This *is exactly what other women would also be thinking whom they are misleading and misguiding. Who knows they look at you the same way they look at them. A 'potential' time pass.
Well, they usually realize their mistake when its too late for their victim to realize that she has been used for their purpose. Better stay away from them.
they are only friends and b/c of their ways i definitely only see them as friends, so i don't know what you mean by timepass. believe me they have done some really sweet things as good friends do by looking out for my well being and protecting me staying away is hard because of that and just b/c i've done it several times in the past, i go to the woman after they've "won her over" and just let her know it's casual flirting. it's like i'm stuck in this cycle
it's wrong to judge them but i do wish i had never met them then this whole situation wouldn't be so frustrating
and another thing is that they don't see it as a mistake, they see it as a conquest.
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mm why do they treat you well and other women as what you claim?
what is this really about?
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If their attitude with you is positive and negative with other women, then they are hypocrites. I mean why should they be sincere to you and insincere with other women ?! What could be the possible reason. Either one is sincere in nature or one is not.
They might also have done those sweet things and looking out for well being with those women (just like they did with you) in order to gain their trust. Who knows ?
Re: the men that see women as conquests or that mislead them......
is there some point in their lives that they finally realize they need to see the person of the opposite gender as a human being?
i see them misguiding and misleading these women and yet i can't do anything about it. they are my friends, they treat me well but when they see other women they go into womanizer mode.....every time i see them flirting with a woman i hope that they've actually stopped this way of thinking and this is the one woman for them, but it never ends up being the case.
so the feminazi in you doesnt slap them for what they are doing ? mhmm if u are a friend u got every right to fix that.
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interesting thread nisha, can you explain a bit more
what do you mean misguiding? misleading?
is there some point in their lives that they finally realize they need to see the person of the opposite gender as a human being?
i see them misguiding and misleading these women and yet i can't do anything about it. they are my friends, they treat me well but when they see other women they go into womanizer mode.....every time i see them flirting with a woman i hope that they've actually stopped this way of thinking and this is the one woman for them, but it never ends up being the case.
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those are the same men who will have foam in their mouths at the thought of someone leading their sisters on.
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so the feminazi in you doesnt slap them for what they are doing ? mhmm if u are a friend u got every right to fix that.
i never really understood what the term "feminazi" meant. respect people regardless of gender see them as a human. would that make me a feminazi? i am not a confrontational person, getting angry and slapping them is not something i would do :P
interesting thread nisha, can you explain a bit more
what do you mean misguiding? misleading?
well let me give you an example of one particular guy, he gets the woman to feel wonderful because of all the attention he showers on her, makes her think he's in love with her and then moves on to the next woman after he sees that she's in love. It's like seeing a car accident right in front of my face and i can't do anything about it.
those are the same men who will have foam in their mouths at the thought of someone leading their sisters on.
that's a good point, i'll try and say something similar to seeing these women as somebody's sister to one of them and see if it has any effect on him...thanks
Re: the men that see women as conquests or that mislead them......
If their attitude with you is positive and negative with other women, then they are hypocrites. I mean why should they be sincere to you and insincere with other women ?! What could be the possible reason. Either one is sincere in nature or one is not.
They might also have done those sweet things and looking out for well being with those women (just like they did with you) in order to gain their trust. Who knows ?
if you knew somebody that did this to women, would you just let it go and let them do this damage to these women or would you feel like you need to do something about it, like i just can't let it go because i just keep thinking about all these other women they'll fool, i would feel selfish for not doing something about it
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^ May be you can try to communicate with the potential victims, and warn them about those men. But you need to first see/judge if:
They are willing to listen to you and are sensible enough to understand your point (that you conveyed to them with logic and wisdom)
Whether you can trust them. They might bad mouth you and put you in a difficult situation.
If you already know them, then you can invite them to a general gathering for women and request someone sensible to educate them (generally) about such men and their ways of using women. And how they can recognize those cases and keep themselves away from them.
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why befriend such evil people in the first place??
if you really can't tolerate your friends doing this type of thing......why not end friendship with them??
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right now after seeing that most of my attempts at changing their ways hasn’t worked, it’s more like “…keep your enemies closer” for me 
Re: the men that see women as conquests or that mislead them......
why befriend such evil people in the first place??
if you really can't tolerate your friends doing this type of thing......why not end friendship with them??
Nomi,you're a man and i guess you won't understand being not a very emotional person(total guess) but those of us women that have grown up with the fairy tales of cinderella and beauty and the beast have this hope of having those good, decent men. i have these guys around me that have always tried to screw over women and see it as some sort of game, playing with their emotions and then see them as total fools, i'm so hoping they would change.
thankfully i was able to be strong enough to keep them only as 'friends'. but i for one want to keep at it, as frustrated as i get at trying to stop them from hurting these women. honestly you would not understand if you're asking why i'm still staying around them, how totally void of emotions would they have to be to do this to all these women, i just can't let it happen. if anybody has to ask why i started this thread, it's totally out of frustration.
Re: the men that see women as conquests or that mislead them......
Nomi,you're a man and i guess you won't understand being not a very emotional person(total guess) but those of us women that have grown up with the fairy tales of cinderella and beauty and the beast have this hope of having those good, decent men. i have these guys around me that have always tried to screw over women and see it as some sort of game, playing with their emotions and then see them as total fools, i'm so hoping they would change.
thankfully i was able to be strong enough to keep them only as 'friends'. but i for one want to keep at it, as frustrated as i get at trying to stop them from hurting these women. honestly you would not understand if you're asking why i'm still staying around them, how totally void of emotions would they have to be to do this to all these women, i just can't let it happen. if anybody has to ask why i started this thread, it's totally out of frustration.
ermm.........i can understand you expecting decent men n whatnot............
but u can try saying, why you stay around around them if you disagree so strongly with what they do.......since you term them as 'enemy' already.........and also since they are just your friends and nothing more.......
i mean.....i guess, you wouldn't be friends with females who are slutty, lieers backstabbing would you?
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if only i could care less about how they mess over all these other women and be so selfish as to save myself from all this frustration, it would be perfect and i'd actually be able to sleep at night. unfortunately my personality is such that i keep thinking about how horrible all these women will feel when they eventually realize what these guys are really up to. wish y'all could put yourselves in my place. if they could only be hit on the head by a jealous boyfriend/husband/angry brother it would all be great but tough luck
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wouldn’t it be the same thing with manizers though, i would probably be just as frustrated thinking about all the love sick good decent men that these female manizers are screwing over.
i obviously saw some good in these guys to see them as my friends right? but i’m totally dry and coming up empty after this past weekend when it was full force in screwing over another woman. it’s something i need to face and deal with.
it does help to think it through in these threads though as much as some might criticize life1 
thanks guys for taking the time to respond 