The Man's experience in Rishta Hunting

ButtSb · October 15, 2013, 6:37pm

Re: The Man’s experience in Rishta Hunting

I dunno about all the chai and paratha making girls in Pakistan, but if u get anywhere close to the upper middle class, most of the girls I’ve seen haven’t done any housework all their lives (apart from maybe setting and clearing the table, making chai etc.) becaus they always had so much domestic help that it was never needed. When these girls get married and move to us/uk they find it difficult because they expected a (positive) change in lifestyle but not all the housework that comes with it. They miss their maasis, cooks, drivers etc. When I was studying in uni there were a few Pakistani masters students who had just gotten married and come with their wives. All of them had the same issues. Another recent friend I made (married for 6-7 years, 3 kids, moved from pak) said she was finding it very hard in the beginning and that she had never ironed a guys shirt in her life! So never ironed her dads shirt or her husbands shirt prior to moving there. Anyway she was not completely waited on hand and foot, she did cook, but she had maids to do the prep work and clean up, so basically cooking like ur hosting a cooking show (which I love btw, prepped veggie and meat makes it feel like no work at all ) .
So there’s this misconception about how all the girls in pak are so suggarr. I’ve mostly seen that the girls living in the west and middle east have always had a habit of doing more housework no matter where the come from (unless for whatever reason their moms didn’t let them raise a finger).
I remember when I was 10 or something and my mom used to make me put laundry out to dry sometimes or fold laundry, do some dusting around the house and set/clear the table. We had these guests from Karachi who were close friends of our relatives, stayed for 2 weeks. They had a daughter my age and one who was younger. So she actually told my mom k bhabi aap it a kaam karwati Haen. And this was all light housework, that’s the first time I really realized that all girls don’t help around in their house. We never had a maid or house help till after I was married. So whenever we were hosting guest for weeks on end it was my mom doing all the heavy lifting, so I don’t feel like I was made to work too hard or too soon. Btw I have gotten lazy over the years and now that I have house help I might come into the category of girls I was talking about earlier if I ever have to move to the west again :).

then why guys go for chics back home??