The love of alone-ness

[Paheli00]

Re: The love of alone-ness

@inspiron

1. Does anyone else know where I am coming from? and

2. I always felt that men and women were designed to live next to eachother NOT WITH eachother but I need to you guys to give your opinions, advice and experience of marriage, especially those who live with in laws of how to made the transition from your own room, time, space etc to having to share it all. I know I will find it hard and I need to break this habit now!

LOL…during a family vacation last year, parents suggested I share a room with my sisters for 5 days and I freaked out! I got a separte room for myself. But it’s very different when you share the space with your spouse. You can come home and wear stuff in from of your hubby that you wouldn’t wear in front of others…

1. Yes, I can VERY much relate to how you feel (I moved out at 22). So can my hubby because he moved out at 18 to go to college out-of-state…and then lived alone through med. school, residency, and fellowship.

2. I don’t live with in-laws so can’t answer that. But I know with hubby…we’ve adjusted to each other. We don’t “answer” to each other for anything. As partners, we work WITH each other. We don’t always agree with what the other does. But we’ve learned to compromise. And I have no regrets in me compromising b/c I love him very much, and can’t imagine life without him. And even with marriages…with people like us…at times we need a “break” from one another. It doesn’t bother us and we’re respectful of each other’s “separate” time. Neither one of us feels the need to be joined at the hip 24/7.

I don’t think there is ANYTHING wrong with how you feel. But when choosing a life partner, it’s very important that you choose one who can relate to how you feel and is respectful of that.