There needs to be some basic level compatibility of thinking..of things that are deal breaker....
Compatibility can be explored later on, you dont need to underline it before getting married. As I said, success in marriage does not come from pre-recognized compatibility but flexibility. That is why so many of marriages in our previous generations were long lasting (and succesful) although in almost all the cases they were arranged and in many cases husband/wife saw each other for the first time on wedding night.
Compatibility can be explored later on, you dont need to underline it before getting married. As I said, success in marriage does not come from pre-recognized compatibility but flexibility. That is why so many of marriages in our previous generations were long lasting (and succesful) although in almost all the cases they were arranged and in many cases husband/wife saw each other for the first time on wedding night.
you are definitly right......but tell that to people of today...who are not as flexible and willing to sacrifice for the sake of their marriage......even if there is a little problem.....its blown out of proportion and then people advise "get a divorce"....
so what you say is applicable to those who are still 'oldschool' in their approach........the new school people need some issues clarified beforehand so its a little difficult for them to get divorce..
Maybe newschool needs to change the thought process. Success principles dont change with times. They are constant. Things that make a marriage works are always the same.
I am not preaching it, I practice it. Both Niks and I practice it. We are two different beings and there is little compatibility in many things but we both are very flexible and it works like a charm in our life.
Maybe newschool needs to** change the thought process**. Success principles dont change with times. They are constant. Things that make a marriage works are always the same.
I am not preaching it, I practice it. Both Niks and I practice it. We are two different beings and there is little compatibility in many things but we both are very flexible and it works like a charm in our life.
May be you could participate a bit more in Life1 :D........because most of the regular 'advisors' there are the proponents of newschool... and i am myself quite disappointed at this 'self-centred' approach that newschool people preach.......
yes success principles are same.....and they are definitely not being followed/preached.......which shows the lack of success in marriages today......
i think you and other married people should share how they got around tough situations that might teach some of these people that flexibility does help...