If you look on the Internet, you will find websites where goray laug share their nightmarish experiences with in-laws. I had a teacher in high school would would frequently bring up her “monster-in-law” during the lessons. At work, one of my gori colleagues will occasionally talk about the eccentricities of her in-laws. Problems b/w in-laws are often times a result of insecurities/jealousies…and these emotions are not only confined to the Desi race…they’re human nature. One reason you might hear about these issues often amongst Desis is because of the joint-family system. In Western culture…you move out…and when you get married…you live with your spouse away from parents and siblings. This is not always the case in Desi culture.
I think jealousy is a normal human emotion…nothing unusual, but it’s important to keep it in check. You have a person who will be a new addition to your family…and you may feel threatened that she will change the dynamics of the relationship that you have with your own brother. Try to keep in mind…that she herself might be feeling apprehensive…because she’s the newcomer…who is trying to fit into your life (that you are already comfortable and familiar with). Understand that your brother now has a wife…you can’t make him pick and choose between you and her. A sister and a wife are TWO DIFFERENT relationships…with different rights and…neither can be replaced by the other. They can’t even be compared cuz they’re so different. His time may have been divided between his family, work, and friends before…and now there’s a wife as well.