I was watching Oprah today..the episode regarding marriages all around the world!
what caught my attention was Elizebeth Gilbert (author of eat pray love & committed) said the following
“we have this sweet and lovely idea that traditional marriage is a union between one man and one women. This is not the case- marriage was usually an agreement between one man and several women, for economic or family-building reasons. She says the only thing that is consistent about the history of marriage is the element of change. Usually for many women, the idea of the golden age of marriage now means nothing. In 1967 interr-racial marriage made legal, the same arguments being made before that ruling apply now for gay marriage. Now there is the idea of the wifeless marriage- many people want to be married without becoming, or having, the traditional idea of the wife.”
** How much i understood as to what she said next was that “since we have started to choose our own partners the divorce rate has increased**”
agree or disagree?support u answer with an explanation as this is the first time i have thought in this direction n would like others perception on it.im also trying to find her video so that u guys can hear what she said too..
I disagree , because in my opinion divorce rates have gone up not because we started choosing our own partners , but because , we as individuals are no longer as patient, flexible,forgiving, compromising and sacrificing as were the previous generations ....
I totally agree with this response but would like to add that the biggest problem is more and more ppl have become too negative and even before marriage they are thinking of divorce and exit strategies, i would say if ppl concentrated on their love and life only things would be a lot better, its the negativity that is killing all sorts of relations :k:
CB is absolutely right. I would also like to add by saying it has a lot to do with our expectations of marriage.
Dating someone doesnt mean you know everything about them and there wont be surprises. There will be a TON of surprises and some of them will be negative...at that point what CB said about patience ties in.
Kaka and CB are right ... well CB a lil more than kaka .... cuz teh thing is people are not flexible at all ... you can pretty much see from this forum even though its just a forum and alot of things poeple post here they do not really do them in real life but u can imagine that these petty lil things (bbqing for example) go thru their mind and then thats where the problem starts.
people want their signifant other to have this this this this this and if he doesn't have that then we're gonna have issues ... instead of if he doesn't do this and this i think i can handle him and we can make things work
I disagree , because in my opinion divorce rates have gone up not because we started choosing our own partners , but because , we as individuals are no longer as patient, flexible,forgiving, compromising and sacrificing as were the previous generations ....
Totally agree. But I would also like to add that getting a divorce has become easier to get for women as well. Back in the day there were less option for a woman because she was so dependent on her hubby. But with women being more and more educated and capable of financial independence - she has less of a reason to stay in a marriage if in her opinion it's not working out.
Totally agree. But I would also like to add that getting a divorce has become easier to get for women as well. Back in the day there were less option for a woman because she was so dependent on her hubby. But with women being more and more educated and capable of financial independence - she has less of a reason to stay in a marriage if in her opinion it's not working out.
From a legal standpoint it has become much easier through the years as well. I speak for America only but I am sure this trend can be found anywhere. There is nothing to prove anymore and a simple "irreconcilable breakdown of the marriage" is the only reason listed on most of these divorce petitions.
I worked at a firm specializing in Divorce for a year... it was miserable and depressing :(
No . I think its because we started using people as grocery bags . We put stuff in it when we need it , and hold them tight . But throw them away as soon as we don't need them . We lost the value of humanity .
No . I think its because we started using people as grocery bags . We put stuff in it when we need it , and hold them tight . But throw them away as soon as we don't need them . We lost the value of humanity .
I think this can apply to pretty much most relationships, family, even "friends." etc
I dont agree with her..
Becuz When we re in a relationship & tht turns into a marriage a girl needs to compromise and understand that her husband wont praise her or roam arnd with her as he was before marriage. Due to expectations and lack of compromising and understanding problems occur.
