ok guys…to have mangni or not to have mangni
is it really worth it to spend soooooo much money on a mangni?? lets just say im getting engaged over the summer and the potential mangni will cost us $30,000 and theres no lessening it.
what to do what to do
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In my opinion, whether or not its "worth" spending the money depends on the fiancial situation of the family.
I imagine it'll be your parents who will pay for any wedding related expenses right? If that's the case.....then if your parents bank accounts allow them shell out 30K for a mangni without blinking....and still have plenty left over for all other wedding expenses (plus their own retirements/savings etc).....and if they're happy to spend that money for you.....then go ahead. I know a family that's really rich and spent close to 100K on the mangni for their only daughter....but then again based on their net worth, 100K is pocket change to them.
But if this expense is going to put even the slightest bit of financial burden for you or your parents right now or in the future, then don't do it.
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we are not rich but we can afford to spend it. which translates into we shouldnt be spending all that. how do u deal with societal pressure? how do u not invite ppl who expect to be invited?? =/
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What will happen if you don't invite people who expect to be invited? What are they going to do? Gossip? So what? How does that effect YOUR life?
You're an adult now. This is not high school where you give into pressure to fit in with the "cool kids". Spending thousands of dollars that can effect you and your parents lives negatively is a big deal. At the end of the day.....you tell yourself that your parents financial stability is more important to you than pleasing others. You ask yourself that if you or your parents needed money tomorrow....how many of these people would be willing to give it to you.
Besides, if these other people trust cared about you....they would understand why they weren't invited and not take it personally. CHOOSE to surrond yourself with positive people and learn to ignore the ones that gossip, and cause you stress.
On a total side note: How did you come up with the 30K figure for the mangni?
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well avergae cost is like 50 bucks/person if ur lucky at a decent place during summer time. 500 people is what the guest list looks like which takes it to 25k and then i added 5k for costs not realzied yet. i am not caring about people, the parents are. i would love to make it much smaller.
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well avergae cost is like 50 bucks/person if ur lucky at a decent place during summer time. 500 people is what the guest list looks like which takes it to 25k and then i added 5k for costs not realzied yet. i am not caring about people, the parents are. i would love to make it much smaller.
what will ur wedding guest list be?..... if its same as mangni 500 u should cut it down on mangni. no need to spend 30k
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well avergae cost is like 50 bucks/person if ur lucky at a decent place during summer time. 500 people is what the guest list looks like which takes it to 25k and then i added 5k for costs not realzied yet. i am not caring about people, the parents are.** i would love to make it much smaller**.
How close are you to your fiance (ie. is this a love marriage)? Do you know how his parents feel about such a large mangni? Have you seriously sat down with your parents and told them that you'd really prefer a much smaller event?
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If you can afford it go ahead with it! I recently had my mangni (60 guests) and even though I loved the day and everyone had an amazing time the cost of a cake, favours, deco, beautician adds up (although I did almost eBay everything). If I was to give you any advice it's that with a mangni you set a standard and your wedding will have to "out do" your mangni so think of your costs long term.... If its £50 a head now it's going to be more for the wedding.....if its 500 guests now it will be more for the wedding. I would sit down and speak with your parents and ESP your in laws........My friend recently planned her whole engagement and even told everyone where it would be held but in the final stages of the rishta process her mil told her that their family does not agree with having a mangni ceremony/party so you definately need their input..... The main thing is that you and your fiancé are happy!
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Congratulations!!!
Getting engaged is amazing but its technically not official yet. So the answer to your question IMHO is...no.
I don't believe a mangni makes things solid as it can easily be broken with virtually no consequences. The less hoopla over something like this, the better.
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500 guests for engagement? Can you guys not have an intimate engagement and let all these people know that engagement is just a family affair while the wedding will include everyone? Because that'll save tons of costs. We just had a small function with close family that totalled to around 50 people. Our wedding is huge though - 400 people.
Do you guys really want to go for a big event? You can find tons of community centres or even brown wedding halls that'll charge around $25/head - and if you have a smaller number of guests then the expense wouldn't be too high. I personally feel an engagement does not need to have that kinda big event - so to answer your question - I don't think that kinda money being spent on engagement is worth it. Talk to the fiance and see what he and his family want? Maybe they'll prefer a smaller function as well.
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@OP What is solid?
marriages can be broken too…
khair congratz Have happy married life inshallah…
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omg $30K is too much money on mangni. you can do lavish wedding including honeymoon in that money. how many guests are you inviting. Are you paying their air ticket fare and car rental too? 
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yes i agree, i think you shouldn't do the magni. costs and plus god forbid anything else happen.
what we did, thier household people came over and housedhold people thats it. No one else. Rasm and dinner.
InshAllah you can make your wedding more lavish.
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Agreed. Why does it have to be so big/formal?
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What Paheli said. You need to own up to being an adult and being more in control of your engagement party, regardless of whether your parents are paying for it or not. Don't be a passive attendee about this, or later on, your wedding day. If you're old enough to wed, you are old enough to make decisions about how you will be wed, starting with the engagement. Reign in your parents. Speak to them as a responsible, rational adult and tell them how you want things done.
And like others have advised, please speak to your fiancé and take his and his family's opinions on such a grand affair into consideration too.
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i think it is better to minimize the mangni and spend the money on ur future home or actual reception :)
good luck!