Re: The hypocrisy of Pakistani women
As a born and bred Londoner of Pakistani origin who values the positive aspects of Pakistani culture - food, dress and language- and abhors the backward bits - gender gap, restrictive practices imposed on women by women, lust for materialistic assets at the expense of others - I find it unsurprising that Pakistan lags behind in female empowerment and that this translates abroad by immigrant Pakistanis who bring that culture into the UK, USA etc. How many times does one encounter a US or UK national guy whose mother expects him to marry an obedient subservient wife from Pakistan (regardless of whether she’s from Lahore or Mirpur they are bred to be obedient wives of men as long as they are kept women and don’t work or become the main breadwinner) yet these same mothers expect their US born or UK born daughters to marry citizens of the same countries and have freedoms that they don’t give their sons wife? Similarly how many Pakistani national and resident mothers or sisters aspire for their Pakistani national sons of brothers to marry US or UK born girls and when they do get these rishtas they expect these girls to earn the money, be good daughter in laws, pay heed to Hindu adopted cultural practices which they don’t identify with, cook clean look after and bring up the kids and survive on a substandard salary from the husbands income because his qualifications are not recognised in the West? Sorry but times are changing - Pakistani national guys and girls should marry each other and change the culture from within. I’ll be interested to see how many of the UK or US born guys who married girls from Pakistan marry their own daughters to Pakistani national guys - oops perhaps they won’t - does economics have anything to go with it?!
I couldnt agree more!! I really find it pathetic that there are so many double standards and how some women are imposing them on other women. The only solution to this is to take a stand for oneself and make the surroundings understand that this is how you want to live and if they dont Accept it it is their loss!!!