The guy and his family coming over

[Paheli00]

Re: The guy and his family coming over

@salaam2k14

^I’ve noticed you love using this emoticon for most people here that ask for advice, like we’re all idiots or something. Thank you Paheli, I pray that I can be as perfect as you some day.

Yes, I like to use it when I’m wondering what the poster is thinking when they wrote what they wrote. It doesn’t mean they’re idiots or that I’m perfect. You wrote about how this guy already made you “fall in love” with him and you can’t stop thinking about him…yet at the same time, you’re saying you don’t want to get too attached and get hurt. I don’t think you’re an idiot. I’m just wondering why you would allow yourself to get so attached to a guy already when nothing is official if you don’t want to get hurt.

@salaam2k14

He moved from California when he found out that his mother had cancer and lives in my neighboring state. His family and he know everything about me. I don’t know whether it’s love that I feel. I’ll eventually move on if it doesn’t work out and he finds someone else but since our families are connected, if he ends up marrying someone else, I would have to face them. I’ll prepare myself to call him bhai then. For now, I would like to prepare myself for July because whether I like it or not, they’re coming and my parents will be visiting me at that time too.

Well if the guy and his family already knows everything about you, and the families have known each other for years…then why do you feel like you need to prepare yourself for this visit? Why can’t you just be yourself? What is there to “prepare” for in a situation where the family has known your family for years and the guy already knows everything about you?

And what do you mean whether your like it or not? Did your parents invite this family to come over without your express consent? If you like the guy then I would think you would like for his family to visit you in order to move forward to the next step.