The good Pakistani wife

[Muzna]

Re: The good Pakistani wife

@Theorist

See this makes me angry NOT at the men though but our women. This is why you must secure your present and future YOURSELF. As long as you expect another person to carry your weight, decisions will always be made for you not by you. Did it matter that you have his child? Did it matter that you gave up your dreams? Did it matter that you cooked and cleaned day and night? Did you get compensated for it? NO. You sealed your faith the day you handed him your rasta of rozi roti. This is why I hate assigned gender roles. In our society, a woman loses her identity completely after marriage while her man finds another one if he is bored.

keen advice…
the problem is that along with this financial independence, both men and women need to have the skills to handle differences when they arise in a mature way.
so instead of the guy becoming all defensive and saying, “Oh you make your own money that’s why you are fighting me on XYZ issue.” He needs to be able to say, “I want to understand why you want XYZ to be handled in this way cuz I don’t get where you are coming from.”
and instead of the woman thinking, “Oh he’s intimidated by my ability to fend for myself and so he’s got a chip on his shoulder and he’s not doing right by me,” she needs to be able to say, “We’re both on the same team and we are both working towards the same goals. Let me try to understand why he’s doing what he’s doing.”