She’s a good little girl, she dresses and speaks appropriatly, she acts her age, complies with societal norms, everybody loves her, she is the pinnacle of intelligence, some might say. She tells everybody whats right and whats wrong, (according to her) she has a right to, doesnt she? after all, she is perfection in the human form.
what to tell her when she herself does something wrong? commits a sin? a sin which she has on numerous occasions belittled naughty little girls for commiting?
is it not a sin when she is concerned? do her sins become great deeds?
or am i not to judge? i am not her creator, i am not the person she must answer to.
but her key quality of the good girl that she is, is accomplished by judging me.
Look it is human nature to judge. You judge people even subconciously by what they say or do. You can never know somebody truly well unless you take the time to meet them. After all you hate GWB. Do you know the man? No.
It is human nature to judge. You should do so by a standard and apply it across the board. Be fair atleast if you are to judge.
Judging is human nature. I personally am pro-active when people are doing something wrong but that is my personal nature. If someone ****s up i make sure they know it and i try to help them out even if they don't want it. If they really don't want it i only back off when i feel i can't help them anymore
You have to decide for yourself if helping this girl is worth the extra frustration, time and energy.
of course i judge, but im talking about expressing my judgement. This person is real to me, i know her, and i almost always reserve judgement of people i do not know or are not part of my life. i can judge them based on what i know, but i dont express, to an extent where it will make them think as they do nto effect my personal life. this lass does.
i liked you better as Sir_Galahad, why cant u pretend to him again?
Every person has good and bad characteristic. Sir G was just me being my normal self. Sadly i am bored once again and CM loves to cause trouble.
GWB - George Dubya Bush. I was just giving a figurative example.
Well if this lass does affect your life and if she is family i personally say it is your duty to get involved. If you are older you must get involved and straighten her out. But once again that is my personal opinion.
It also depends on the type of sin. It is a crime which could affect her life. Jail time? Or is it a characteristic that has become dominant recently. Or is more of a characteristic that is seen by paki society as wrong. Each of these examples has a different stragtegy and different way to handle them.
However you have to decide which is best. Once again i can only give blatant generalized answers to something i have no clue about.
I dont hate Mr Bush, iv judged him, based on his abilities, but not to his face.
i only hate people who are worth hating, hates requires the same amount of effort as love does, if one is to take it so serioulsy.
It isnt a characterists that paki society deems as wrong, she herself has deemed it wrong, but only when applied to naughty girls, it is allowed when she wants to commit it...am i making sense? as in one rule for her, another for other girls.
so as Sir G, you were able to lie and make up a whole new identity....thats erm...slightly worrying dont u think?
Sir G was not a new identity nor was it an old one. It is part of my identity. No man or woman is one sided. People can be mature or immature, responsible or irresponsible, smart or dumb upon their choosing to be so.
Ah got it. She is basically saying if others do it, it is wrong and when she does it, it is ok. To handle this issue, you have to first see her age and her maturity level. Can you reason it out with her? I am guessing by your usage of the word naughty she is still young. so reasoning out may no work.
What is your level of influence over the lass? Can you forbid the action or deed? If you can't can you talk to someone who has such control. Of course i am giving these options concluding you want to get involved. This would be much simpler if i knew what the deed was. But i won't ask. I respect your right to privacy.
If you cant logic it or influence it you have to attempt to stop it from the outside. Stop those who help her commit the act limit contact with the said indivduals.
I may have guessed what the subject is, if i am correct then i would suggest keeping an active eye on her and help her go out much more in social gatherings. Or just spend more time with her.
bibi ji i used the terms "good" and "naughty" loosely. She's a good girl according to her, and the naughty girls are naughty as they are not her. they are merely lables.
judge as in let her know she is commiting the one sin she berates others for commiting. this sin isnt actually that sinful. It is a sin in her eyes when "naughty" girls are concerned.
i wish i could have the guts to tell her, but im praying for her, im not one to tell people they shouldnt be doing something they already know, its not my right, nor my duty. If i commit that sin then who am i to point hers out. Shes an adult, well, over 18, so she has a responsibilty to herself, shes lying to herself, that in itself is punishment? enough.
Its prob best to just keep it to urself... but if u feel it may be ruining her image or that ur pointing out may be somewhat beneficial to her.. then i dunno, tell her politely?
its not about ruining her image, i would never want to do that, i know i can be a bit of a cow at times, but im really not that spiteful. She has to realise herself…anyway, the other naughty girls know what shes like, its not about anyone knowing, its about her self-awareness and ability to pass judgements when so clearly not needed.
Anways, thanks for all the advice, especially to Sir G, i will definately take some of your ideas on board.
