Just a small thing I wanted to know about. In our family, the guy’s side gives the gold set for both the nikah and the marriage. Is this the normal way or is it usually the other way around ?
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well i had my own dress+jewellery on the baraat day and on valima dress+jewellery from inlaws
well i had my own dress+jewellery on the baraat day and on valima dress+jewellery from inlaws
yeah thats what i know...
well i had my own dress+jewellery on the baraat day and on valima dress+jewellery from inlaws
Yes, this is how our family does it. Our custom is that a second light set is given to the girl at the mangni though.
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My cousin got married last year, & this was how his dulhan's family does things. She wore the engagement set that had been given by his parents on the baraat day & a second heavier set for the valima.
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well in our family, the larke wale give all the dresses and jewelry for all the functions of the wedding.
so my MIL got me dresses for my engagement, nikkah, mehndi, baraat & walima, with the jewelery ofcourse :)
my side of the family got him clothes, etc for every function.
very different, but this is how it is :)
Just a small thing I wanted to know about. In our family, the guy's side gives the gold set for both the nikah and the marriage. Is this the normal way or is it usually the other way around ?
I think it depends on where you are from. A lot of Urdu speaking people give everything for both functions (Barat and Walima) - the clothes, shoes, jewellery, etc. From what I noticed, people from Punjab do things differently. The larki walay are responsible for everything for the Barat and the larkay walay are responsible for everything for the Walima.
well i had my own dress+jewellery on the baraat day and on valima dress+jewellery from inlaws
same.
Just a small thing I wanted to know about. In our family, the guy's side gives the gold set for both the nikah and the marriage. Is this the normal way or is it usually the other way around ?
Are you talking about shaadi day and valima day? Then yes, in our family the bride wears jewelry given to her by her inlaws on both days.
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My husband's side gave both the outfits and both sets to go with those outfits. If the sets didn't go with my outfit for the shaadi and walima I would've worn my own sets that my parents gave me. Its more of... if it matches wear it, if it doesn't wear something of your own.
My husband's side gave both the outfits and both sets to go with those outfits. If the sets didn't go with my outfit for the shaadi and walima I would've worn my own sets that my parents gave me. Its more of... if it matches wear it, if it doesn't wear something of your own.
why would they give you something that does not match ?
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nope, why put the entire gold burden on one family..do you know how much it costs.....who has money like that to buy not one but 2 heavy gold sets for barat and walima......in our fam, girls side by one set and boys one set....she wears one for barat and one walima.
Who says they have to be “heavy”? Unless you’re marrying Mr. T, or Dawood Ibrahim’s daughter, a wedding set need only be tasteful and elegant, not “heavy”. I’m a firm believer in buying and wearing your **OWN **d*mn jewelry and clothes, but if your future spouse can’t drop a G (or two) on a few pieces of jewelry, what business does he have asking for your hand?
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Maybe sometimes their idea of what matches is a little....off? LOL
True: some people can afford pricey clothes and expensive jewelry but not one ounce of taste. Like the bride at this wedding. They didn’t have any jewelry that matched the lengha and didn’t want to spring for any that did. Gauche.
why would they give you something that does not match ?
Sometimes it doesn't match. Of course most people would like to match but what if a set is MIL's own that she is passing on to her DIL. If it doesn't match, wouldn't you wear something that does match. I don't see what the big deal.. Jo match karta hai pehn lo, kia farq parta hai kis ne dia.
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Depends on where you're from. I think in Punjabi families, the bride's side gives the barat day outfit for both the bride and the groom and the groom's side gives the valima outfit for both. That would include jewelry. In Sindh (including Karachi), the bride's side gives the groom's outfit for both days and the groom's side gives the bride's outfit for both days.
That being said, I did wear the jewelry that Ammi and Nani had made for me. I asked MIL if it was okay, and she had no issues -- MIL selected my barat day clothes.