are never happy. if shes not married, theyl worry when will she be married, if she is married, they want her to stay within the paramters of her husbands home and if she does come to the parents home, ( husband is very nice and understanding and doesnt mind her going to her parents), theyl still worry, does ur husband know ur here, why are you here without him, will he come to pick u up? , why are u staying overnight etc......…and once husband turns up to pick her up or comes to the house with her, they are all smiles and you can see the sweat of relief that passes over them…
see, my mothers started the same thing, im going soon, and ( U ALL KNOW THE STORY), husband is very undestanding and we are both very hsppy, yet mother is worrying and making me angry…`is he happy ur coming/ IF hes happy then teek hai, i dnt want u coming without his happiness/ what if mother in law brainwashes him while ur here then what/ you need to compromise nadz, which means ie.- let hubby have full control of you, so what if ur unhappy, deal with it.
Nadz.....it's not just your mom that has these concerns. Jog your memory and you'll recall that even members on GS....people who are complete strangers for you......warned you many a time not to aggravate your husband or fuel tensions when you leave pak....for fear that your MIL will take advantage of this once you're gone. So it's not just the girl's parents who would think this way. As for your mom......she's had more experience than you dealing with culture an in-laws.
I was missing you and your threads so badly Nadz and here you're back. All mothers are the same. When I came back after three months of my wedding from Pakistan, questions bombarded by my mom: Are you happy? Is he keeping you happy? How is he treating you? What about in-laws? Is everything ok? There were so many of them. Gosh mom, look at me... main buhat khush hoon. Khushi se phool gaye hoon. So you no worries, thats how moms are.
lol...parents are afraid k ye burden jo itni mushkil se utara hay phir se wapis na aa jaye..:D..quite normal
hopefully the above comment was made jokingly......I don't know of any parent that would consider their daughter a burden.......they are more concerned for her happiness.