Are the most sincere ones you’ll have in your life…
I was talking to a few freinds about this and this was the general consensus…
I realized that when you’re young in so many ways its easier to make friends…making and maintaining ties take commitment and time that after a certain point in ones life, becomes scarce. A common sentiment I hear among friends is that they hardly have time to meet their current friends, much less make new ones.
I don’t believe in absolutes but rather every person’ has different life experiences, but what do you guys think?
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A common sentiment I hear among friends is that they hardly have time to meet their current friends, much less make new ones
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True in the sense that overtime keep contact seems to get harder and harder especially if people don't see each other. As for the latter part it depends...I find making BEST friends hard, I make friends okay-ily its the BEST close friends that it takes me times to make and to open up to.
I think you're right Sara...the friends I made when I was 15 years old are still my best friends.
For some reason, its not that hard with them. If I dont see them or talk to them for a month, its okay. We just pick up where we left off...this is for some reason not true for friends I made later.
For some reason, its not that hard with them. If I dont see them or talk to them for a month, its okay. We just pick up where we left off...this is for some reason not true for friends I made later.
I think you're right Sara...the friends I made when I was 15 years old are still my best friends.
For some reason, its not that hard with them. If I dont see them or talk to them for a month, its okay. We just pick up where we left off...this is for some reason not true for friends I made later.
All i remember is my childhood friends were awesome=] but i have never been etoo good at maintaining friends. for one reason or other i lose touch with them.
For some reason, its not that hard with them. If I dont see them or talk to them for a month, its okay. We just pick up where we left off...this is for some reason not true for friends I made later.
That's really true. I have this one childhood friende who I see on eids only it seems like, and but when we do just talk a million miles a minute. it's hilarious. We didn't even like each other that much when we were younger.
I think when we were younger, we got to know a very wholesome and truer side of our friends...whereas nowadays people dont trust each other as easily and are quick to point fault where there may be none at all. There are so many barriers when you get older and its hard to knock them down because they've been up for too long.
Reha, I've realized that it was much easier to make friends when I was in college.....exactly for the reason you stated above...now as I've gotten older, experienced more things than my 18 year old self did, I feel i'm not as forgiving or tolerant of things anymore...a few insensitive comments or weird behavior and I lose interest in that person..
plus, when ure older, it gets so common to find people who have an agenda and its hard to trust them...not so much when you're younger.
I have lost contact with many of the friends I made at age 14-18. Most of them turned out to be morons. In my case I was always a few years younger in my class meaning that I met older ppl and unfortunately even at that age these ppl did have their agendas...they were all Pakistani..maybe it would have been different if they were of other origin?
I have realized that one should make good friends with one's spouse and then have a few close friends rather than trying make best friends with everyone...
I know I'm quite young here (err 20 :D) I make friends very easily, but my long term "best friends" are now posing problems.
I am the youngest in my classes in uni, I'm graduating this year and all my friends from highschool have just started uni. I can't seem to connect to them because to my friends in school I'm too advanced, so ahead in life so I can't possibly understand what they are going through (they say), or in uni, where I'm still the baby whereas they have families and relationships and oldness.
Friends suck, I hate them all (i'm sorry, in a bad mood with everyone) sigh
My school friends I'm barely in touch with. College friends and colleagues are pretty close, but the closest are the (desi) family friends I've known all my life (plus cousins).
it's easier to maintain ties with childhood friends, however at times when you get older you do tend to drift away because you form newer social groups or whatever the reason. I think I've maintained ties with only 1 childhood friend of mine, and masha'Allah she is amazing. We may not talk everyday, but I always receive birthday gifts in the mail, or she'll show up for any event I plan, she's one of those types that's "always there" and that's the type I am. I hang out mostly with my college friends, totally new group,non-childhood friends, but that's because I see them so often, so it's easier to keep in touch. It all depends on a person's personality, life is so busy these days with school, family, work and other responsibilities, I think what's important is that as a friend you make the time to be there for them when they need you most, in both good times and bad times.
I have one childhood friend who is a real chuddy buddy and i've known him since I was born. Even though we had a chat a couple of weeks agoa fter a couple of years there was no catching up required or anything. He is having some issues in his life and I hope I can help him out with those.
Apart from that I have 3 really close friends from high school days here in Toronto and I see/talk to them on a regular basis. I have other friends from high school that I am in touch with but sadly most of uni friends just drifted away.
for one reason or other i lose touch with them.