At times a couple might not be able to develop an understanding in order to come up to an agreement regarding a certain issue/matter they are facing. Both have their logical reasonings but their views are contrasting. Now either of the two views have to be implemented. Would you just keep on trying to convince your spouse by highlighting the drawbacks of his/her views, even though he/she doesn’t seem to grasp it easily, or would you let him/her have the final say just in order to finish the conflict/argument.
I know it depends upon the situation and many other factors. But the point is that at times one spouse, despite of being convinced that he/she is right, only gives up because he/she accepts the other spouse to be the final decision maker because of any reason (education, forceful personality, too sensitive…etc).
Is it good or bad ? How should people proceed in such situations ?
I guess the couple should divide the areas where they decide who will have the final say. E.g. in children and extended family matters, the wife can have the final say while in financial matters, the husband can have the final say. This will be best workable when the husband and wife have balanced personalities.
In other cases, where one spouse is more powerful in any manner, of course, he/ she will have the final say. More powerful and dominant doesn't necessarily mean in terms of personaolity, education, family background etc. but sometimes one spouse just wants to be under the influence of the other spouse since it saves him/ her from many responsibilities and critical decision making.
I think I'd react differently in each situation, if it's a financial issue then I'd let him decide and if it has something to do with kids' education or decorating the house then I'd stand up for it firmly.
Is this thread also going to end with something like, well whatever the man says go and the woman should just shut it and listen to what the man wants and produce 20 babies?
SO and I talk out the expectations and real reasons for supporting one over the other, then try to find solutions to make them happen. We tend to agree with the most basic desires/expectations, or at least respect and try to room for each other's. It takes a LOT of energy, so when we don't have it, we fight :p.
At times a couple might not be able to develop an understanding in order to come up to an agreement regarding a certain issue/matter they are facing. Both have their logical reasonings but their views are contrasting. Now either of the two views have to be implemented. Would you just keep on trying to convince your spouse by highlighting the drawbacks of his/her views, even though he/she doesn't seem to grasp it easily, or would you let him/her have the final say just in order to finish the conflict/argument.
I know it depends upon the situation and many other factors. But the point is that at times one spouse, despite of being convinced that he/she is right, only gives up because he/she accepts the other spouse to be the final decision maker because of any reason (education, forceful personality, too sensitive...etc).
Is it good or bad ? How should people proceed in such situations ?
When such a situation arises in our home, we usually go over the pros and cons of each person's idea, and go with the idea that has the most pros.