the ex, the girl, and the new guy

[Paheli00]

Re: the ex, the girl, and the new guy

@akaprincess

it died off against the girl’s wishes. she wanted to be with him. yet after things broke off, they continued spending time together as friends, even though the girl still wanted to be him.

OK, so this girl is CHOOSING to continue seeing/talking to a guy who refuses to more than friends.

@akaprincess

The ex refuses to be with anybody else, wont be with the girl, and wont let the girl out of his life either. The girl still has feelings for the ex, assuming mainly due to the fact that the ex is still in her life, but show knows it’s not going to work out between them, although hope never dies? whatever. Point is- she still cares. She has asked to get back together but the ex always has lame excuses (life problems etc, dumb stuff).

This girl needs to take responsibility for her own actions. She is just as much to blame for the current mess as the ex. Its not that the ex “won’t let the girl out of his life”. The girl is CHOOSING to keep the ex in her life even after the ex has refused to get back with her. She is nothing but a time-pass for the ex. She knows this but is in denial. She’s living in a childish disney fantasy world convicting herself that the ex will someday marry her…meanwhile other good potential rishtas are coming and going. If she keeps this up, she will be one of those women well into their 30’s wondering where the good rishtas are. B/C guess what…when the ex is ready for marriage…he will choose someone else.

Caring about someone and making stupid decisions about your own life are 2 separate things. The girl needs to realize that just b/c she cares about the ex, that doesn’t mean she has to allow him to manipulate her and waste her time/energy by living in a fantasy world.