The effect of divorce in children

[Kikoy]

Re: The effect of divorce in children

@Sara516

So what’s the lesser evil here? Divorcing when the kid is too young to understand (like baby/toddler age) and are thus “used” to their life, when they’re old enough to understand but not realy (schoolage) or preteens/teens/adulthood?

Divorce is an ugly ugly thing and I sincerely pray that nobody ever has to go through it…ever.

My experience with divorce, I had to deal with my 2 children of different age groups. As it stands today, it is infinitely easier with my child who was a baby at the time rather than the one who was old enough to understand…under condition that …i kept all the bitterness out of my heart. Both of them are free to talk about him, in fact if they havent mentioned him in a while, i make a small mention as a reminder to them.

I know the scenario will change as the younger one will grow up to ask more questions and more difficult ones too. I guess I will handle it when the time comes. But for now she feels loved by him, although she never sees him, simply because we talk about him on and off. I could never break her heart by making her think bad thoughts about him.