The effect of divorce in children

[Deeba1234]

Re: The effect of divorce in children

@diamond321

I know (apart from my own) one case of someone very close to me who is from a broken family. The reason was the the father did 2nd marriage for settling abroad and left his wife and children here in Pakistan. The eldest kid was in class 4 or 5 at that time the mother had to take up a job to support her children what happened then was girls grew up to be fine but the boy was not. The boy later on got married and ended up abandoning his children he did not have the ability to feel for anyone. The girls are happily married and settled. Reasons for divorce vary but as a parent I think that your should give your best and try every bit possible to save your marriage. But if the marriage is dysfunctional to the extent that parents stops caring about the interest of children then it’s better to let go and let the children be with the parent who really cares and this does not always mean “mother”. I know a case where mother did 2nd marriage and left her kids and the father raised them and never married again. The decision to stay married or get divorced should be made keeping in mind interest of children and that should be the top most priority.

I can’t seem to higlight text but the but regarding the bit I have put asterisks around I know it’s not a ‘fix’ but perhaps things would have been different if the mother had remarried so the son had grown up with a father figure in his life?? You often hear of this sort of behaviour from boys who didn’t have a male role-model or guide growing up.. A couple of my cousins have a step-dad and they love him to bits now, the younger one begged his mum not to remarry before he had met the guy (he was only 8) and used to say ‘I don’t want another dad who will make u cry’ but now both sons openly say they’re glad their mum remarried, that she has someone to love her, they can live as a family again (he also has one son, so now there are three kids) and that as they get older and leave home for uni/work/maybe marriage she won’t get lonely or be left alone..