The divorce story

[Reha]

Re: The divorce story

@dumdumdededumdum

divorce/separation is getting too common maybe because the lack of patience among this generation.
i havent found any thread on gs where people who have been divorced or separated for any reason may be have shared their story

do they now think that it was a mistake or a jazbati faisla or a right time to move on

how they world or mainly the family reacted or participated in that

have they moved on in life in better conditions

difficulties were more before or after

they should share their experience with others so people who are thinking of it refrain or go ahead

Please its not like im being pessimist but its just to give an insight to other ppl the life after separation
i appreciate receiving some serious posts on this topic

Honestly speaking, it was the right choice.

My family was shocked at first because they didnt know the extent of what was happening. But then, they reacted fast by getting me out quickly. It was a very destructive and nasty situation…with no real hope of improving.

I have moved on to a better life, Alhumdulillah. I have no regrets because even though I am divorced, there were lessons I learned and I am sure Allah swt has his own plan. I think each experience - bad or good - is one that is sent to us from Allah swt and has a lesson in it somewhere.

Difficulties were definitely more before the divorce. My life since then has been peaceful…no fighting, arguing, struggle or negativity. I am very happy now…I live with my parents, work, help them, working on improving myself, am active and headed somewhere…Inshallah. Before, it really felt like I was living in some underground tunnel…now I feel like I can breathe. People describe me as a genuinely happy person.

I have come across a lot who expect me to be a certain way though…surprisingly. They expect you to be falling apart, miserable and traumatized with a vacant look in your eyes. And when they dont see that, it looks like it bothers them…again surprisingly. They will fish, hunt and constantly look for weaknesses that will help them say “bichari, dekho kya hogaya”. They will ask my mom questions and try to sympathize with her…like she is suffering for her daughters… All we do is ignore ignore ignore. I am a firm believer in “Allah swt doesnt give you more than you can handle”.

@NomiCA

^ Divorced people don’t usually admit that the divorce was a mistake…or that they were responsible in anyway for the divorce…

I havent met many who actually regret it though.

@Si4e

I believe until now women sacrificed everything to maintain their marriages even if it meant living in an abusive relationship, the men simply carried on without much consideration for their SO. Now, however we’re all equally educated and raised to be independent and I suppose men need to step up their game.

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