Being a mom myself, I understand how hard it is to raise a child.
So your child grows up and has their own life. Just like we do, today. We are still linked to our parents but most of our time goes towards securing the future of our offspring. It’s a cycle.
But then when we grow older, we start expecting a lot from the children, some expectations being unrealistic and coming off as “testing” to see how far they can stretch the child.
Is it because we mothers feel that since jannat is beneath our feet, so it’s our God given right to test our children? Or is it because we are insecure that now our child shares their life with some unknown person who has all of a sudden become a priority? Or is because that’s just the way moms are?
I think it has to do with kids growing up and not needing their parents anymore as much as they used to? Parents spend their whole lives caring for their kids and then comes a day when their kids don’t need that care. So, now what to do? Thats when the drama starts to happen. At least it seems that way to me.
I hope I have the sanity of mind to remember all these things when I’m old and gray.
There was a thread in parenting forum about son not going to father for some period of time. In my case my son is daddy daddy all the time. He wants to go with dad all the time and that kind of hurts. I mean my son does not even know he is causing such a heart break :)
May be, even though I cannot imagine feeling jealous right now, but just may be once he is old and keeps on singing about his wife all the time while I cook him his favourite food I might be jealous or atleast heart broken.
Sometimes I think I should kiss nd hug him as much as I can now because one day he may not want me to hug him. I got all this in my head by watching TV.
I hope I stay sane too and not be a clingy mother or a wicked MIL but I can imagine it being hard to see my son not wanting me anymore.
Well, there are many people who would kill me for saying this but still I would say what I have observed.
The time which parents receive in old age from their children is directly proportional to the time those parents used to give them in their childhood. For example: If their preference was overtime at work, so now their children's preference is overtime at work, and the extra salary that comes with it. And Vice versa. After all, children learn most of the things from their parents.
Well, there are many people who would kill me for saying this but still I would say what I have observed.
The time which parents receive in old age from their children is directly proportional to the time those parents used to give them in their childhood. For example: If their preference was overtime at work, so now their children's preference is overtime at work, and the extra salary that comes with it. And Vice versa. After all, children learn most of the things from their parents.
Not necessarily !!!
I have not observed what you have but I can quote many examples I have seen around me where this direct proportional theory of yours does not hold true.
Allah tests His banda with what He has given him and aulad is one of those things.
So may be if the children are not spending time with parents or prefer overtime and money, it is an aazmaish from Allah, who knows.
^ I agree, it could be a test, but tests mostly are for the friends of Allah, who are rare among us. Allah doesn't put people like me to tests, because HE knows that people like me wouldn't remain thankful the way they were before.
But you see, 'generally' speaking, tit for tat is a universal truth in all fields of life. Whether intentional or unintentional.
