Since Adam (a.s) up till now, all of them are thinking in their graves, that:
I am sure that you already know what would they be thinking ?!?!
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Had we followed our Prophet (saw) and made our marriage a bit simple. Had we not spent too much lavishly, had we not cared about show off, status, pleasing people and instead saved some money to give it to the poor people, it would have benefited us in the grave, on the day of judgement, in the hereafter life, and in jannah FOREVER. Why did we care about peer pressures, who now don’t care about us. Why did we accept the pressure of our parents,..etc. now that they can’t help us while the gigantic horrifying angels question us about the spending of each and every single penny in the places that were wrong.
Where are the people who enjoyed and appreciated the lavish decorations, over consumption of food and its wastage on our wedding that took place (for example 100) years ago. No one remembers how much was spent by whom. There is only ONE who remembers any good act done for HIM. HE NEVER forgets and keeps on giving rewards for eternity. BUT HE would also question us for our celebrations and Luxurious spending due to which the mourning of needy souls, who died of hunger in places very near to us, could not be heard. May Allah (Swt) guide us all!
to each their own! You can't judge people like that! Just because people spend lots of money on weddings doesn't mean that they don't give alms and don't do charity.
i think that was very inspiring, i really hope that for my wedding i'll be allowed to organise a simple wedding and that a part of, if not all of the money that would have been spent on it or that people will give us will go to charity, there's no better way to start a new "life".
to each their own! You can't judge people like that! Just because people spend lots of money on weddings doesn't mean that they don't give alms and don't do charity.
i don't think that the aim was to judge anyone.. sometimes we all need to be reminded what really matters ;-)
I'm not disagreeing with you about about spending "lavishly" on weddings. But Islamically you'r not going to be punished for having a big wedding because a wedding is a dawat for people, a gathering.
Beside the islamic point-of-view, if someone can afford to do something then why can't they? If we looked at it that way then we wouldn;t travel because it would be considered "wrong" and same with other things that we spend our money on. A wedding is a girl's dream and I don't see why she can't have one day and make it special. Yes you can have a beautiful big wedding without commiting gunnah. Weddings with segregation, no music/dances.
You can also give chairty instead of paying your television bill. We shouldn't make Islam look hard then it really is. Please don't feel that I'm trying to put you down because I'm not, I like the message you're giving but I just want to clairfy
this topic has been discussed to death and everyone agrees to disagree.....all i can say is people are looking at things from a totally stereotypical prespective and it sickens me....
^ Merey bhai, I agree with the points mentioned there, but ofcourse my intentions and perspective is not conflicting with him.
@Topic. Those who find this arguement difficult to digest, please ignore my whole post and consider only this line;
Lets try to follow our Prophet (saw) and make our marriage as simple as possible, to our level best, to the extent possible. And try utilizing the saved money to serve needy people.
If anyone still feels offended, please forgive me and pray for my guidance.
I completely agree with you R.A.W. Although this doesn't apply to everyone, but it definitely does apply to some! A lot of girls within my age group are either engaged or on their way to get married. And I often see them trying to "out-do" the other. Getting ice sculptures, extra dessert times, out of this world wedding venues, etc; If all of this is within your price range and easily affordable then by all means do so. But if all of this is to show that you have lots of money in hopes of intimidating others, it's completely wrong and superficial.
I'm so glad this topic was brought up, because it definitely does address some key issues :)
