The Damad and Bahu

[ninja_hattori]

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@Kinzz

Ego
Log Kia kahen ge
Naak kat jaye gi

one of my chacha is leaving with his in laws…
no he is not a ghar damad he built his own home and his in laws moved in…as his inlaws doesn’t have any son…

But irony is that some times he criticizes my other chachas for having good relation with their own in laws…

[Kinzz]

The Damad and Bahu

^ see this is good.

But wait, is there any difference if in laws move to their damad house? I mean in this case is this guy still a ghar damad ?

[Kinzz]

@Khalil KhaaN FaaKhta

it’s a cultural thing and the reason being women considered a weakling and they must be subservient to be able to stay as wife which is obviously a stupid practice.

Islam encourages to develop bond, to inculcate love and to adopt the spouse’s family as one of his/her own. love and respect is given first in order to receive it.

one thing MUST come off the Desi girl’s and her parent’s head is that woman is NOT a husband’s property and that she has a body with soul and feelings which must be respected by her husband and his family.

Masha Allah naik khayalat hain apke.

[ninja_hattori]

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@Kinzz

^ see this is good.

But wait, is there any difference if in laws move to their damad house? I mean in this case is this guy still a ghar damad ?

no he isn’t a ghar damad because he is owner of that house…one becames ghar damad only if he moves into his in law’s home…

[KKF]

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@Kinzz

Masha Allah naik khayalat hain apke.

nek Khayaalaat to hamesha se hii the lol…aurat kii izzat karne se hii mard kii izzat baRhtii hai…hai na?

[Kinzz]

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^ kuch mard orton Ki izat nahi Karte phir bhi orat ko majbooran izat karni parti hai.

[muqawwee123]

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@Kinzz

^ kuch mard orton Ki izat nahi Karte phir bhi orat ko majbooran izat karni parti hai.

khair kuch aurten bhi to mardon ki izzat nahin kartin.. jinhe urf e aam e bivi kaha jata hai

[Kinzz]

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@muqawwee123

khair kuch aurten bhi to mardon ki izzat nahin kartin.. jinhe urf e aam e bivi kaha jata hai

Izat khud karwae jati hai husband acha behave rakhen to wife khudi izat kare gi.

[KKF]

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@Kinzz

^ kuch mard orton Ki izat nahi Karte phir bhi orat ko majbooran izat karni parti hai.

is meN hamaare samaaj, laRkii ke maaN baap aur laRkii kii apnii Ghalatii hotii hai k vo shauhar/daamaad/husband ko apne sar chaRhaa lete haiN aur yeh baaraat ke aate hii shuru ho jaataa hai…wallah kabhii dulhe, uske parents, uske dost aHbaab ke naKhre dekhe haiN?

[redvelvet]

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Kinzz, tum sirf in-laws ki khidmat ki baat kar rahi ho. What bothers me is how some inlaws set restrictions on the bahu meeting her parents…where they either don’t allow her or have some weird reet/riwaj where she cannot visit her parents for more than a certain number of days. I have a cousin whose in-laws don’t allow her to stay at her parents’ home for more than the three days when she visits Pakistan. She lives overseas and doesnt get to see her parents much to begin with. What gives another person the right to prevent you from visiting your own parents…the people who brought you into this workd and sacrificed so much for you and have such an elevated status over other relationships in Islam. This practice makes me sick.
You’re only concerned about a DIL’s treatment of her in laws in this thread…yet some in-laws seem to think that they are superior to the bahu’s parents.

[Kinzz]

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That’s what bothers me too . Shadi kar ke jese parents se taluk hi khatam?

@redvelvet

Kinzz, tum sirf in-laws ki khidmat ki baat kar rahi ho. What bothers me is how some inlaws set restrictions on the bahu meeting her parents…where they either don’t allow her or have some weird reet/riwaj where she cannot visit her parents for more than a certain number of days. I have a cousin whose in-laws don’t allow her to stay at her parents’ home for more than the three days when she visits Pakistan. She lives overseas and doesnt get to see her parents much to begin with. What gives another person the right to prevent you from visiting your own parents…the people who brought you into this workd and sacrificed so much for you and have such an elevated status over other relationships in Islam. This practice makes me sick.
You’re only concerned about a DIL’s treatment of her in laws in this thread…yet some in-laws seem to think that they are superior to the bahu’s parents.

[KKF]

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@Kinzz

That’s what bothers me too . Shadi kar ke jese parents se taluk hi khatam?

ta’alluq na toRnaa ho to phir seedhe seedhe shauhar ko “ghar jaNwaayiiN” banaa leN!

[Kinzz]

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@Khalil KhaaN FaaKhta

ta’alluq na toRnaa ho to phir seedhe seedhe shauhar ko “ghar jaNwaayiiN” banaa leN!

Exactly , yehi tou mera point hai, ke agar larki ghar chor sakti hai parents ka aur agar larki Ki koi majboori ho to damad kyu nahi ghar damad ban sakta?

[KKF]

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@Kinzz

Exactly , yehi tou mera point hai, ke agar larki ghar chor sakti hai parents ka aur agar larki Ki koi majboori ho to damad kyu nahi ghar damad ban sakta?

agar uskii job usii shahr meN hai to kiuN nahiiN.