Re: the complexion..... part 2
HQ you're taking it too personally
Re: the complexion..... part 2
Oh please. Looks are important. I pity naive people like you who feel their ideals can override human nature. People are programmed to like what looks good. We like pretty people. We like to look at them. We are more attracted to them. You need to be attracted to someone to want to sleep with them. A large part of attraction is based on looks. You can huff and puff all you want but most people prefer to form relationships with someone who is attractive. It's not wrong for someone to not want to marry someone they do not find attractive.
I personally do not think darker skin is ugly. But you can't force other people to find darker skin attractive. If someone rejects you based on your skintone, good for him/her and good for you. It isn't a big deal. You're better off without them. People should be happy when someone is attracted to them partly because of their looks rather than in spite of their looks. I wouldn't want to be with someone who didn't think I looked good and who only married me for whatever so-called impression they had of my personality.
As long as someone doesn't think darker people are inferior or should be treated badly, they're not 'discriminating' against them. Some people don't find darker people attractive. Some people don't find pasty-white people attractive. Some people don't find fat people attractive. Some people don't find skinny people attractive. I'm so sick and tired of reading people rant on and on about how desi men don't like darker skin.
Agreed.
I don't personally see the issue with darker/white skin, but people do and I don't really blame them, When they're looking for someone to get married to its fair they choose someone they are attracted to - we might think their basis for choosing/rejecting someone is silly but everyone is different.