Assalamo alaykum,
I came across a section in Tafsir Ibn Kathir that I feel serves as a good reminder for all of us.
It talks about preaching with wisdom in a sensible manner. It also emphasizes preaching with kindness, gentleness and good speech. Unfortunately, I feel many of us (including myself) lack the qualities required.
If we examine Religion forum alone, there are members who regularly use abusive and insulting language for each other and show complete disrespect for anything that is not in line with their views and beliefs.
Hopefully the following would help us all out, insha’Allah.
The Command to invite people to Allah with Wisdom and Good Preaching
Allah commands His Messenger Muhammad to invite the people to Allah with Hikmah (wisdom). Ibn Jarir said: "That is what was revealed to him from the Book and the Sunnah.‘’
وَالْمَوْعِظَةِ الْحَسَنَةِ]
(and fair preaching) meaning, with exhortation and stories of the events that happened to people that are mentioned in the Qur’an, which he is to tell them about in order to warn them of the punishment of Allah.
وَجَـدِلْهُم بِالَّتِى هِىَ أَحْسَنُ]
(and argue with them with that which is best.) meaning, if any of them want to debate and argue, then let that be in the best manner, with kindness, gentleness and good speech, as Allah says elsewhere:
وَلاَ تُجَـدِلُواْ أَهْلَ الْكِتَـبِ إِلاَّ بِالَّتِى هِىَ أَحْسَنُ إِلاَّ الَّذِينَ ظَلَمُواْ مِنْهُمْ]
(And do not argue with the People of the Book, unless it be with that which is best, except for those who purposefully do wrong.) [29:46] Allah commanded him to speak gently, as He commanded Musa and Harun to do when he sent them to Pharaoh, as He said:
فَقُولاَ لَهُ قَوْلاً لَّيِّناً لَّعَلَّهُ يَتَذَكَّرُ أَوْ يَخْشَى ]
(And speak to him mildly, perhaps he may accept admonition or fear (Allah))(20: 44).
إِنَّ رَبَّكَ هُوَ أَعْلَمُ بِمَن ضَلَّ عَن سَبِيلِهِ]
(Truly, your Lord best knows who has strayed from His path,) meaning, Allah already knows who is doomed (destined for Hell) and who is blessed (destined for Paradise). This has already been written with Him and the matter is finished, so call them to Allah, but do not exhaust yourself with regret over those who go astray, for it is not your task to guide them. You are just a warner, and all you have to do is convey the Message, and it is He Who will bring them to account.
إِنَّكَ لاَ تَهْدِى مَنْ أَحْبَبْتَ]
(You cannot guide whom you love) [28:56]
لَّيْسَ عَلَيْكَ هُدَاهُمْ وَلَـكِنَّ اللَّهَ يَهْدِى مَن يَشَآءُ]
(It is not up to you to guide them, but Allah guides whom He wills.) [2:72]
Ref: The Command to invite people to Allah with Wisdom and Good Preaching