except you should'nt have to struggle for each other's love and appreciation especially not right from the get-go with newlyweds! its kind of cynical.
also, sometimes too much struggle just ain't worth it, you know? it could backfire and cause resentment.
as for limits... i'm curious, set limits on/for what- sex, children, finances, all of the above, none of the above? it seems the question is, are you raising a child, or are you an equal in your marriage and expect your husband to treat you equally as well? maybe i'm being too literal and so don't understand what you're saying. sahar/hin, please explain?
p.s: yes, that icon did make me laugh. again. :p
What I meant is negotiating together in subtle ways how you want to be treated. I don't think it's about being competitive or patronizing, but with any relationship the two people need to set up and reconsider expectations of each other.
we had breakfast the next morning... by the time we got to the hotel, the kitchen was closed. boo! breakfast was good but whoa, pricey! good thing we dont get married every day :p
haha my bags kept on getting lost , i packed my bag for the night and then took it wid me to the beauty parlour thn realised i left it in the car and they took it home and then to realise dt no one brought it wid them to the hall and in the end they had to drop both of his n my bags off in 2 chakkars to the hotel. (pearl continental - Lahore executive suite it ws amazin the room)
yeh so pack ur toothbrush , make up remover wipes , some make up , lingerie , fancy clothes n jewellery for the next day , perfume , comb / brush . deodorant , face cream .
hey,evryone.
i mean the girls, esp the married ones...
i duno what to call it exactly, but by 'the brides bag' i mean the suit case or bag whtevr u call it. The dulhan takes it with her after the barat (rukhsati)...
so my main question is "what important things should u hav in it"??
thot to open this thread, as i guess sumthin imp related to weddin :) or may b not.... c'mon i guess married aunties can help!
it'll b a nice help.
thx,
veer-zara...
uh okay i aint no aunty sweetheart im onli 19 ! gosh y duz everyone assume js coz ur married ur an aunty . ridiculous i say !
erm i need an image uploader thing i dunno hw to do it. n im soo lazy till nowi have onli scanned 3 of my pics sumone five me an image uploader so i cn load them up on my blog.
definitely remember to pack some hair conditioner - run it through your dry hair before jumping in the shower and it REALLY helps undo all of the teasing/tugging/nastiness that went into your updo. once the hair has loosened up under the shower, you can shampoo it all out - voila!
^ wudnt it be better to jus twait to wash/condition hair til after the valima is over? IMO all that work is useless cz th enxt day they'll be doing it all over again for the hair
In addition, you should have a nightgown, pretty lingerie/negligee, body lotions, massage oil :D, fancy clothes and jewelry for the next day (no matter what you wear, it won't be fancy enough for someone), comfy casual clothes for hanging out, etc. ??????
Make sure the room is equipped with: hair dryer, iron, coffee/tea maker, water
Where is the wedding? UK, US, Pakistan, etc? Where will you spend the night? Hotel room? your own place? a relative's place? That affects what you need.
The weddin will be in Pakistan INSHALLAH, dn obviously the night will b spent in Pakistan.probably in a hotel room, cz (in-laws)cumin from US. still depends might b at some relatives, dunno yet.....
but still tips most welcum :)
goes back and double checks forum description “Guys, don’t fret – treat it as a groom room as well.” phewwww
