you walk into your friend’s / cousins / relative’s house and notice that she has a huge black eye and looks like she was crying the whole night.
When you ask her how it happened - she said she accidentally hit the counter top.
You know her marital life is not going that well and they are having all sorts of issues and lately her stories aren’t adding up
What should you do? Do you question her further? Do you wait until she comes to you? Do you catch her in a lie or inconsistency?
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I think I will let her come to me when she feels comfortable.
I also feel this is one of those situations where you think you would do one thing but might respond differently when it actually happens.
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I would indirectly tell her about a friend or some relative that I know who was abused and maybe that would make her open up.
If the black eye and other signs of abuse continued then I would confront her about it =/
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one must NOT intrude in one’s private life…you ask casually what happened and then accept her reply whatever it may…wait till she is comfortable about telling you…curiousity will make it even harder for her.
however, if i see a man with a black eye, i’ll call the police because the poor guy jo biwi se piT gayaa ho vo apnii Hifaazat kaise kar saktaa hai…i would have to intervene somehow! 
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That reminded me of a funny incident. We were a year into our marriage and we bought some tall halogene lamps that you need to assemble. When assembling, one rod accidentally hit my eye and gave me a huge black eye. Next day at work, people refused to believe my story and kept thinking that I probably had fight with my wife and she punched me 
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abhii tak sach nahiiN bataayaa…this is your opportunity to come clean NOW! admit it! 
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Kabhi nahi
Nazar lage naa kaheen oos ke dast-o-bazoo ko
yeah loug kyun mere zakhm-e-jigar ko dekhte hain
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Kabhi nahi
Nazar lage naa kaheen oos ke dast-o-bazoo ko
yeah loug kyun mere zakhm-e-jigar ko dekhte hain
waah...u ke andar kaa shaa'ir jhaaNk rahaa hai magar ham ra'naaii-e-she'r o suKhan se mutaassir nahiiN hoNge...hameN jawaab chaahiye aur sachchhaa jawaab chaahie! :D
vaise, zaKhm-e-jigar kii baat nahiiN ho rahii bal k "zaKhm-e-chashm" kii baat ho rahii hai...:)
btw, is she'r kaa matlab maiN ne poochhaa thaa intiKhaab men magar aaj tak kisii ne iskaa asl matlab nahiiN bataayaa...kia aap bataane kii zeHmat farmaayeNge? :)
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Intikhaab kee baat intikhaab main karian ge.
Aray bhai, it really was the lamp rod.
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haN jii, vahiiN tashreef laaiye aur kuchh Khaama farsaaii kijiiye 
chaliye maiN maan letaa huN k ROD hii thaa magar shaayad uskaa dusraa siraa Bhabhii ke haath men thaa
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LOL! Well, tbh, I can picture Nik running after you with a rolling pin. 
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This has actually happened to me......I had been given a package in Karachi to bring back to Toronto for this family. When we went to see them we found the girl living in the basement apartment of her in-law's house. We waited in the upstairs living room. We were served chai etc but didn't see the girl.
The MIL/FIL took the package and said thank you very much. Meanwhile, no girl.
Ammi whispered to me that things didn't seem right and she didn't want to leave without seeing her.
I asked the MIL where "Sadia" was. She said, "Neechay hogi. Aap chali ja'o milnay."
Off I went......down the stairs.
Found her in her kitchen......and when she looked up at me.....BOOM.....the black eye and the bruises were undeniable.
I asked her what happened because I was too naive. She said she walked into the kitchen cabinet corner. Yeah right.
She never did come upstairs to see ammi. Claimed, "Mera salam kar dain aunty ko. Main FIL kay saamnay nahin jaati, sharam aati hai." (yeah right again!)
When I relayed the story to ammi she was very worried and made efforts to follow up on the phone with the MIL. Got totally blocked.
Wonder what happened to her........
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what the hell!!!!
thats SCARY
if I were you I would call the police on them thats just O.O
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Whoa, I would have totally called the police myself. That is NOT okay. is speechless
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Munza that's scary.
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yeah...
I'm sure that Ammi did what she could. And others might have acted too cuz ammi did report back to the family in Pakistan.
I do believe that the folks moved from there eventually cuz she went back there with my older brother and couldn't locate them.
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jab nibha nahi sakty to shaadi kiyon kartay ho.
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How scary is that
There was a lady I once knew who used to work odd jobs at peoples' homes. At one point when we were kids, I heard her talking to one of my mom's friends...she kept saying things like "maarke bohot pachtatay hein. Rotay hein ke meine haat kyun uthaya aur ainda kabhi nahin karunga".
Later on, someone heard that things got really bad for her. My mom and her friend tried to help her but after so many efforts when they finally found her...she refused to leave.
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^ typical.....they are so brain-washed that the guy is actually sorry that he hit her. they hide his faults and continue to live on in an abusive situation.
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scary scary X_X
shivers