I don't think you can force friendship - neither with men nor women - it just happens. You just have to release criticisms and judgments, accept that all of us are doing the best we can, women and men both, imperfect though our actions maybe. This kind of attitude will help you see the kinds of different people out there, it can be interesting to observe them from a distance before trying to be friends with them. Start seeing people just as people rather than men or women.
men and women are different when it comes to this issue or i'm guessing it depends on the individual
women put their all into family and being the good DIL that i don't see how some women keep strong bonds with other women(those other women are probably busy taking care of their families, kids, inlaws issues)
most men are able to keep friendships alive regardless of marriage happening, i'm guessing so.
keeping none or low expectations help
then those friendships that are shown in the show "sex in the city" aren't possible after a woman is married so low expectations have to be kept. no strong expectations, bonds, that way of being there for that female friend no matter what won't happen after marriage for a woman.....those that do have it are the lucky ones.