This one is for the girls!
When you moved out of your parents house and into you new home how did you move all of your stuff? also did you bring your own desk, vanity etc or did you buy new furniture with hubby? Like other girls I have tons and tons of shoes, make-up, clothing, books, I paint so I have a lot of stuff for painting and drawing, is there even going to be enough space over there for all of my stuff? also is there someone who moved into their in-laws house while still at uni? did you have a study area? did you feel like there was room for you to be you and all of your stuff?
I’m a neat freak, so I like everything to be in their place, books in proper bookshelves, all the clothing in the closet, everything home-work related + laptop on a desk etc etc and I’m so worried that there won’t be enough space for my stuff …
I don’t know! I just got thinking about it and it has freaked me out! =( + I hope my post makes sense.
How about you talk to him about how you guys want to go about it?
We have decided that we're gonna buy new furniture together after the shaddi. We'll use his bed for the first few weeks, then when our new bed ect will arrive, we'll just move his bed to the guestroom :)
He cleared out the back room for us and we brought new furniture because we wanted all new things new in the bedroom like wardrobe bed carpet paint chest of drawers. Basically we done everything from scratch including carpet.
His room was a very small room tht could only fit in a single bed but the bedroom we have now is a double which is perfect for us :)
I'm also still at Uni and I took absolutely everything with me including my notes that I needed. I threw away all my first year notes though because I don't need them. So just got my third year things and some from second year. I took all my books. Even some of my reading books. We use his old room as a study room now and we use his desk which is big enough longways for us. We've basically turned his old room into a study room. Best thing to do is ask your hubby about what you can do and your needs. :) best of luck.
Did people move their stuff in suitcases? How many do you need? Also, if you get new stuff for jehaiz (or is it bari?), what happens to your older stuff, where does the space come from?
I’m like BeautifulSunshine, no matter how much my fiance tries to convince me, I don’t believe there’ll be enough space for me and my things at my in-law’s. And he wants to buy completely new furniture as well, and have me pick everything out myself.
haha so cute!!! i love these panic stricken posts!!
well it depends on the size of your in laws house right? i mean your not going to take a whole book shelf if they barely have space for one book!! you just need to sit down and plan exactly what you will require....also depends on if you are moving far? out of the country? etc
my policy will be to just take what i need (although Dubai has everything)....there is going to be so many new things that the old will probably cancel themselves out...
on the other hand...if i get my way and i have a place of my own....then ALL my relevant stuff is coming with me :D
With me, we were moving into our own place, which we bought around 6 months before rukhsati. He moved in first and started getting it all set up and over the 6 months I slowly moved my things across so I didn't have to do it all in one go.
We were moving into our own apartment. My husband basically had nothing of his own (poor college student, lol!) only a full size bed, a desk & an entertainment center from his bachelor pad…we moved all that into the 2nd bedroom of our apartment. My sister bought us a dinette set as our wedding present, and then 3 weeks prior to our wedding, we went a bought one sofa together from a discount furniture place. For our master bedroom, my mother wanted to buy me all new furniture, because she was scared my MIL & SIL would “expect” it, but my husband put his foot down and said no, I should just bring whatever I was using at my mom’s house and that he and I would by new bedroom furniture together when we could afford it. And that’s exactly what I did. 2 years later, when we bought our first house, we bought all new furniture for the master bedroom and living room.
Incidently, my jetani did make a snide comment about “dhulhan apnay ghar say purana furniture layaiay tho bura lagta hai” and my husband prompty told her off and put her in her place
Thank you everyone for replying. It's weird but I did not give it one single thought until 2 weeks ago, I have been so focused on the wedding planning that I haven't really thought about it. Whenever I ask my fiance all he says is 'don't worry about it', 'there's enough room' and I really don't want to make a big deal so I kind of just change the subject, but it is kind of a big deal.
I've only been to the upstairs of their house once and I don't think I'll be going up there again before the wedding and the way I remember it there isn't enough room for my stuff ... we will be buying furniture together, but why waste the furniture I already have, right? Meh, I hate this! lol
My family lives in the northern U.S. and my in-laws live in the southern part of the U.S. My parents didn't get us big furniture or anything because just the transportation costs alone would be more than what the furniture was worth, so it wouldn't be worth it. And in our culture it is usualy something that the boy's side is expected to take care of, so my in-law's got that stuff. They got us all the kitchen appliances, dinner ware,etc. as well as full queensized bed set, bathroom set, etc. We would be driving from my parent's state back to his state, so my husband rented a bid SUV so thankfully it all fit in the trunk and back seats. It was super stuffed, but at least we got it all in there! My clothes, jewelry, shoes were all in three HUGE suitcases packed to the max. I didn't really take any old outfits that I had, all my clothes were new stuff we had made for my 'jahaiz'. I'm not a big purse or shoes girl, so I didn't have to worry about packing all that.
my wedding was in pk but we were planning to live in usa, so i bought nothing but clothes enough for 2 weeks.
At my in-laws home in pk ... I have a whole section/floor for myself ... it was/is decorated and furnished by them.
in usa, we bought things together.
