Re: That Maternal Instinct
Blushing vision = snickers??? 
I dont care who is who but thats good news bv: Congratulations maashaAllah!!! 
Re: That Maternal Instinct
im not snickers 
she is a very good friend of mine and i know her very very well 
Re: That Maternal Instinct
I always thought that I'd be the career woman without kids, I always found kids to be kind of gross, messy and smelly. I was SOOOO wrong! When I married my love, actually even before we married, I couldnt wait to make babies with him. I have to say that creating a new life with someone you love with your heart and soul is the best experience you could ever imagine. My boys and my husband are my universe, my world, my sunshine. This coming from the wall street techie gal who needed numerous "userguides" for the arrival of baby!
Re: That Maternal Instinct
I finished my undergrad 6 months before I got married. I tried looking for full-time work, but was unsuccessful (the IT sector was crap in Toronto at the time). I started thinking about doing a B.Ed, so I got busy with volunteering in schools etc. I applied to teacher's college, and then got married. After 2 months of marriage, my father-in-law got sick, and because I wasn't working, I was the one taking him to chemo and radiation. In Sept of last year, teacher's college started. Alhamdulilah, I graduated this June and have been looking for work ever since. As a new teacher, I have to pass an assessment of some sorts (the govt hasn't decided what it will be) as well as complete a year of probation, and I guess I want to get this over with before I have kids, so that if I do go back to work later on, I don't start off at the bottom with new teachers. The thing is...finding work in the public school system is really hard- it's about who you know and not your qualifications.
I'm also afraid of stepping away from the profession for a number of years. I'm contemplating just being an occasional/supply teacher even if I have kids...like once or twice a week. I dunno....
I'm not really worried about not contributing financially because our planning is solely based on one income and if I do work, the money that I earn is mine.
All these fears....argh
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I want a son, I'd make him all the things I couldn't be in life...
Re: That Maternal Instinct
I planned everything, marriage, kids and work and mashallah things did work out well for me. I got married after completing my BS. Then started M.Ed. and took me almost two years to finish that. while still doing my masters, I got a job as a teacher. I didn't want to have kids while still studying not that I didn't want to. I have always wanted kids and always loved them and found them cute. Then three months down the road after getting my masters I got pregnant (as planned). I had worked as a teacher for two years so now I wanted to get a break and spend time with my newborn. I took a year's leave to stay home with the baby and raise him myself. I cannot trust no babysitters with my kid and as most of you, I preferred giving up on the money then on getting my kids raised up by someone else.
Four months have already gone by since I started my leave and had my baby and I wish this time would never end!
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I had no plans and my wedding came too soon to my taste. I had no desire to become a mother either. When I think back, my mind was not completely adult I think. I was 18 and had mostly studies,music and books in my mind. It all happened too soon for my taste, but later, AFTER my children were born, I developped the maternal instinct.
Now I can't imagine a life without my children. :)