initial message
I know a lot of you said that i should go to a qualified scholar,but it was realy hard for me to attempt it here…i think i only did it because its pretty annoymous, but hopefully i will try the websites.
For those who asked, ill say more,most of you commented, its a disgusting subject, im aware of that only to well,i obviously havn’t forgiven him because i can’t forget it.
Im from the uk and got married in 97, i only stayed there for 5 months.When i got back i did my a-levels, which takes two years, so he only joined me here last year, so thats a gap of nearly 3 years, (to obtain a visa for your spouse you have to work for a min of 6 mnths, to prove you can provide for him).Basically it was an arranged marriage (with a lot of emotional black mail,) i didnt want to get married as i wanted to study,i was 16 at the time, but everyone said that i could once i got back.
I found out about a year before he came here, in '99. i could tell my sister was upset abt someting.When i got married in '97 my sister and some of my family stayed on for another 6 months, which was when it all happened.
I know its true because he eventually admitted it.I think he is repentent,but i just cant seem to forgive him now .one of my sisters is divorced, and it really affected the family, which is why their not acknowledging my problem.Thanks to all of you who did reply.
[This message has been edited by Akif (edited May 23, 2002).]