Thank you GS!

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Never thought I’d be saying this, but I had to return to GS after a long time in order to get tips etc for my wedding. I got song lists from here for mehndi, especially since I am so out of touch with songs. And where I live (South Africa), desi weddings are few and far-between! My dresses are coming from Lahore and my main one is based on a Bunto design which I feel in love with a few years ago and I think I got it from GS!

The wedding is only in August, but I like to get things done in time and am really enjoying the preparations! Got luddi sticks yesterday. Got matching suit pieces for my close friends for mehndi. Have a decor lady and a perfect venue called “African Skies” with 360 degree views of the sea and city around us.

One thing I am struggling with though is nice favours for guests - it either turns out to be too expensive (like the soya massage candles I wanted) or too cheapy-looking.

I don’t want to do chocolates or something vain like photos of us! Help here would be greatly appreciated!

Oh and we are having a bit of a scrabble theme, as that’s how we met (online - playing scrabble!) and so I hope the tiles and holders don’t clash with the classic-white theme we’re having!

Other ‘troubles’ are - to have a slideshow or not? Photos are personal and I don’t know if I want to show 200 guests plus a dash of strangers what I looked like when I was 2. In another sense, it’s a nice touch.

Place cards or not? Since he is gora, he definitely wants them and so we’re thinking of having reserved seating for our close family and friends and the rest are free for all? What do you guys think? My dad was having a hard time trying to fathom this concept yesterday! Shew! lol I really don’t want it to be a ‘langar’.

DJ…so we will have background music, but should we have a DJ for after the reception? There will be no booze (obviously) but I know that goras can’t dance without some alcohol in them. Should we just keep it nice and Islamic and not bother with Music at all?

Also, what are the contents of “chhware” packets for the mehndi? :halo:

Since it’s the reception (the nikkah will be the day before), should we walk in together? Or seperately with our parents? I am having flower girls (in white dresses).

Your advice will and is most appreciated!

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Congrats cat-woman. GS is def the right place for all your queries. I got married three months ago and GS was very helpful. Proto made my wedding and mehandi dress and it was fab
Good luck with all the preps. All the best

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Thanks fatso and congrats to you too!

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don't forget ushers

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whew! thats quite a long email! :slight_smile:
see my comments below.

as well, ushers would be good if you want the bride and groom’s family seated separately during the ceremony. we just had guests sit whereever- it was a small wedding so it didn’t matter particularly. we just reserved the front row for parents and grandparents but everyone knew not to sit there so it was ok.

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I love slideshows because it shows a person's upbringing, family, funny moments and shows their personality to the half that isn't too familiar with the person. I mean how often do we attend weddings where we know both the bride and groom comfortably? slideshows lighten things up, gives strangers a talking point at times with the other side and so forth.

as for favors I love it when couples give us a pic bc I love to show off our rich cultural outfits and such to ppl that come by the house. I think most wedding favors like candle holders, empy picture frames just don't get used. the only thing I have found useful was that at a mendhi they gave the girls small pendant and earring sets or at another one i got a bangle holder and plastic case. aside from that I have chunked all the favors I have accumulated. If the guy's side is white i'm pretty sure they too would love a thank you card with a pic of the couple waiting on their tables.

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hope you can make sense of ths -- my keyboad sn't functonng popely, but wanted to eply :p

wth favos, do somethng that people wll actually make use of. you can't go wong wth candy/food n pouches. f you get petty pouches, they can also be used aftewad fo stong thngs. the des auntes wll defntely love them.

do table assgnments. lke t. and t s becomng vey common n des weddngs n the west.

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your i's and r's are messing up :(

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^ know :(

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^ lol sorry sahar, but that was a funny post hahaha

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:D

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cat-woman:

Good luck with all the planning! Here are some thoughts:

1) Slide show: It's totally upto you and your fiance. We had a slide show at our wedding and included pics from both of our childhoods.....all the way upto trips we have taken together. Many of our guests enjoyed the "baby pics" and some of the funny pics we included. We had friends/co-workers make comments (positive ones!) about the pics to us afterwards. Only do the slide if you and fiance want to....and include pics you two are comfortable showing.

2) Reception cards: I did reception cards at mine. I feel at weddings whethre it's missing......people end up at table sitting with others who they don't know....or have nothing in common with. When my husband and I did the seating chart for ours....we took into account people's backgrounds/personalities to make sure people would be seated with others who they could have a conversation with (and actually enjoy it!). But this is definately a time consuming task and you need to make sure you're willing to put in the effort into it.

3) Walking in: I walked into the reception with my husband. Parents were introduced before we walked in. Since the nikah is done already....I personally don't see any logic as to why you would not walk in with your husband. Half of our wedding guests were goras and I know at least with the goras I know....they would find it odd if I did not walk in with my husband. Bride walking in with parents is generally done during the wedding ceremony (ie. BEFORE you're husband/wife). I would say go with what's generally done in your social circle (ie. the weddings you attend there....does the husband/wife walk in with each other during the reception OR with their parents separately).

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I think you should incorporate your theme into your favours, it'll be really cute! I also like the idea of using place cards for close family and friends, as when it's a big fat desi wedding, alot of the time they end up sitting just anywhere. You can also put chocolates and sweets in the chwarre packets too.

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(apologes agan f ths makes no sense -- keyboad ssues)

chwae packets ae tadtonally gven afte the nkkah by the goom's sde. of couse, thngs can be dffeent.

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^:rotfl: I’m sorry but your responses are hilarious!

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Sahar: I really hope you continue to have this keyboard issue for a while b/c your posts are HILARIOUS!!! :biggthumb:

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lol glad you all fnd ths so amusng :naraz:

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^ Oh yea…I find it VERY “amusng”!!! :hypo:

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:omg: bahahahahaaa!!

sorry sahar, couldn’t help it…

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sahar..ur hilarious!

and i like what SGC said.

main thing is to just relax and have a good time! enjoy every minute of it!