Sooooooo…
I’m bored. Oh soooooo bored!!! Hence the thread…
How do you feel about terms of endearment? Should they be used sparingly? Or sprinkled very, very, generously…to the point that it becomes like your significant other’s first name (yuck!)..? Which names do you prefer? Which make you cringe?
Discuss 
I just think there shouldnt be any “kanjoosi” in that. Like all in. All luvly bubbly expressions. A little innovation should be helpful so coming up with new terms/keywords will mix in the variety which is supposed to be the spice of life 
Terms of endearment ..as sweet as they are…can make an insult sound all the more scathing. Can peak the sting of someone’s indifference. Like Clark Gable’s “Frankly, my dear, I don’t give a damn.” They can be powerful depending on how they’re used.
Noo! Sometimes a lil’ kanjoosi can be a good thing. I know this woman who calls her husband Jaan Ji. I find it excessive. I feel like telling her that the first half of her address is saccharine enough, so does she really need to tack a “Jeee” to the end of it. That makes me sound horrible, doesn’t it? Not that I’d actually say that to her in real life. I can mind my manners; keep a straight face but chuckle inside my head.
Pie-girl…does my addressing you as thus…cement your feelings toward me? 
I understand that they do play somewhat of a role. But it takes a lot more than sweet words to cement a relationship.
if nickname given to me is creative… then why not, i am game…
Terms like baby, honey, jaan, e.t.c have lost their charm cz every second person has these nicknames..
No thats the ji as only the attachment thats habitual and common in Punjabis specially like mamma ji , pappa ji.. hence Jaan Ji. Otherwise it just reflects the "chupkoo-pan’ which sometimes people may take it as a chichora-pan as per their own discretion. And it may often lead to phaddas among other couples as to “suno ji, did you notice them? why cant you call me with such loving words, hain ji”
Ok, I know I sound like Minto here..
It loses it’s charm if it becomes like his/her first name. But it would be lovely when used at the right moment. Like Sid said, there shouldn’t be kanjosi in it either.
I prefer unique, quirky names as well. I only recently started using terms of endearment more frequently with my students; it didn’t come as easily to me for the longest time. I’ve found that it makes them calmer; more receptive to what I have to say.
I’m not averse to all common terms of endearment, but there are a couple I don’t like. Such as “dear”, for instance. It can very easily sound condescending. And I’ve never felt completely at ease with “jaan” and its variations…although I don’t mind it in lyrics. Oh and the use of “jigar” among men …blech! I dunno…maybe my feelings will change in the future.
Janu Jaan Janwar… yeh sfar sab ko tay karna parta hia…
Sheeday, how could you forget the phaipray? Phaipra just sounds too poetic.
Ooohps, mahool beat me to it.
True story ..
I was once on a* tareekh* some years ago, feeling already awkward sitting in a Pakistani restaurant with this Pakistani lass. When the time came to order some deserts, I couldnt control my laughter when the menu had this typo “Gulab janum”. I pointed this out to her and she said dont even think about calling me that 
not in public
when I’m in the mood, i’ll call her sweet-cheeks, lol
no…sounds fake and overtly trying…
In indopak culture people were shy of calling thier spouse by name, so they used these terms … Baat sunain, suniye ga, aji suntay ho, munnay ke abba, karma wali, naik bakht …
So how do you feel about ** Oye! Hoay! 
works for some people I know 
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